Although we live in a world where millions of erotic videos are available at your fingertips, there’s something special and exciting about whacking it to people that you know.
Often, it’s the people we see regularly and interact with that we end up fantasizing about the most, even if they might not be as hot as the pornstars you can find online.
This can lead you to wonder – is it even okay to be masturbating to them, or the pictures they’ve posted online? Should you feel ashamed or creepy for doing so? Is it wrong?
This one is for both the ladies and the men out there. In this article, not only will I share my thoughts, but I’ll tell you what actually is crossing the line, and how to stay safe while fantasizing about your friends.
Let’s get started!
What They Don’t Know Can’t Hurt Them
Now in this instance, I’m a believer that what somebody doesn’t know won’t hurt them.
The truth is, most people, especially women, might be uncomfortable by the fact that you’re wanking to their pictures, especially if they didn’t post the picture specifically to get sexual attention. A picture of them in a bikini with their friends might make for prime wanking material, but it probably wasn’t the reason that they posted it.
However, you’re probably not the only one enjoying that same picture. And as long as you do it silently without the person finding out about it, it’s not going to cause them any harm.
What you’re doing isn’t wrong, and I don’t believe you should feel bad about it. After all, it’s not really any different than having a sexual fantasy about them in your head, and this is something we all do with people we find attractive. Girls and guys included. We are all fantasizing about each other all the time, and if this is okay, silently enjoying a picture someone posted shouldn’t be wrong either.
That being said, it is possible that you can cross a line without realizing it. So, let’s look over some examples of what’s not okay, and would be considered inappropriate behavior by most people.
(Gosh, I feel like I’m teaching one of those workplace sexual harassment training videos now. Anyway, moving on.)
What IS Creepy Behavior
1. Taking Pictures Without Them Knowing
The first thing you absolutely shouldn’t do is take pictures without them knowing. This means no candid shots, no filming them or their naughty bits without them realizing it, and definitely no spycams or anything that would break the law.
When somebody chooses to share a photo with you, or they post it online, then it’s fair game. At that point, they can’t really have any expectations or control over what ends up happening to it, or what it ends up being used for. Obviously, don’t share anything that’s meant to be kept private, but nobody should hold expectations over how you personally enjoy the photos either.
I remember my dad telling me when I was young, “Alexa, whatever you post on the internet stays there forever. Always remember that.” Thank goodness he’s been supportive of my porn career!
Anyway, as long as you’re sticking to photos that they have chosen to share, you should be in the clear. The same goes for photos or videos they’ve been tagged in and are okay with being publicly posted.
It’s only when you have footage they don’t know exists does it become a problem.
2. Enjoying Nudes That Weren’t Meant For You
The second thing that’s immoral and unethical is enjoying nude photos or videos that weren’t meant for your eyes. Again, this comes down to the idea of consent and ownership of the images.
Nudes are sacred, especially to girls. If they’re sent to someone, it’s done with the understanding that it’s meant for that person only. It’s going to be kept safely on their phone, and that person will take steps to make sure that nobody else is able to see it. Of course, some men get off on sharing the nudes of their girls, while others do it after breakups or other bad events.
This is commonly referred to as revenge porn and in many places, is actually illegal – with some states making it a felony charge if you’re convicted of it multiple times.
Although it’s natural to want nudes of every woman that you know – I actually thought about doing an audio on this concept at some point, we all have the right to keep our private photos, well, private.
So even though I am a complete degenerate myself, it is wrong to be masturbating to nude or private photographs that weren’t sent or meant for you. Again, if the girl has an Onlyfans or something and you signed up, go at it my friend. But if they were sent to you by someone else, the right thing to do is to shake your fist at the sender and delete them.
Do I expect you to do that? No. I don’t think most people would, if I’m being honest. But it is the right thing to do.
3. Telling Them, Or Hitting On Them While Horny
Finally, the last thing that definitely crosses over into ‘creepy’ territory is telling someone that you’re masturbating to their pictures. Or, hitting on them or sending sexually inappropriate comments because you’re horny and can’t control yourself.
Again, what somebody doesn’t know won’t hurt them.
It might be hard to understand what a big deal this is, because sadly, guys do not get enough compliments. Guys aren’t hit on or complimented for their looks or made to feel sexually desirable like most women are. So while you may be absolutely overjoyed knowing some girl is rubbing herself to a picture that you posted online, the same can’t be said for women.
If your goal is to have a sexual relationship with this woman, straight up telling her that you’re jerking it to her photos is probably the worst way to go about it. At best, she thinks worse of you and brushes it off. At worst, you’re facing sexual harassment charges, and everybody else in her circle hears about it.
I feel most people have enough common sense for this not to be a problem, but this is the internet and you never know.
How To Stay Safe
Now that we know what’s appropriate when it comes to masturbating with your friends’ pictures vs. what isn’t, let’s now look over how you can stay safe while doing so.
There are really two things to keep in mind.
1. Download The Pictures
The first is to download your favorite pictures, if you can. And the reason for this is that while you’re holding your phone in one hand and pleasuring yourself with the other, there’s a lot of movement going on. It’s very easy for you to like the photo by accident, which will immediately send a notification to their device.
If you end up liking a photo they posted 6 months ago at 2 AM, it could lead to an uncomfortable situation!
Most social media websites allow you to download photos directly, or you can also take a screenshot. As far as I know, Snapchat is the only app that actually notifies people when screenshots are taken.
For things like Instagram Stories, there are online tools you can use to download them as long as they are not private.
2. Use A Photo Vault App On Your Phone
Once you’ve got the photos downloaded, I recommend storing them in a separate locked folder, or using an app designed for this purpose.
I recommend one called Private Photo Vault for iPhone, and I know there are similar apps for Android as well. Basically, it stores the photos inside of the app, and hides them from your camera roll. You can even lock them behind an additional passcode, so if someone gains access to your phone, they won’t be able to see the photos.
Again, this all comes down to avoiding uncomfortable situations. If someone opens your photos and sees a bunch of lewd photos of themselves, or someone you both know, it could cause problems.
In conclusion, I’m all about you having fun, I just want to make sure you’re doing it safely, legally, and ethically.
Most women might be uncomfortable if they knew that you were masturbating to them, be it with their photos or even just your thoughts. However, the reality is that you’re not the only one, and this behavior is completely natural.
I’d love to hear your thoughts in the comments below. Who in your life do you enjoy masturbating to the most? What about them turns you on so much? Do you have any other tips to share?
We’d all love to read what you have to say!
Lewd Lexi is a professional adult voice actress, phone sex operator, and sexuality educator. Here on LewdLexi.com, she shares not only her newest releases and projects, but works to provide resources to give everyone a better sex life!