7 Myths And Misconceptions About Phone Sex

Although phone sex seems like something that has gone out of style over the last few decades, the truth is that it’s more popular than ever!

In fact, while I’m best known for my audio porn, I actually make the overwhelming majority of my money through phone sex – and have talked with thousands of different callers over the last few years. Many of those people started doing phone sex for the first time with me.

What I’ve learned is that there are a lot of myths or misconceptions about phone sex, that most people don’t realize until they’ve tried it.

So, in this article I want to debunk some of those myths, to paint a better picture of what phone sex is actually like – both for callers, and for phone sex operators themselves!

1. You Only Talk About Sex

Perhaps one of the greatest myths of all is that phone sex operators are someone you only talk about sex with.

This couldn’t be further from the truth.

In fact, a huge percentage of my calls have nothing to do with sex at all. They are simply people that want to chat, vent, or discuss whatever’s on their mind.

If you think about it, phone sex operators are a kind, open-minded voice to speak to any time of the day or night. They are cheaper than therapists and you don’t need an appointment. You can talk as little or as long as you want, and most PSOs are genuinely interested in what you have to say.

And of course, unlike most other people, you can talk about exciting things like sex if the mood strikes.

I have callers I talk with for hours before we get to the sex, if we even end up talking about it at all.

Likewise, I have people that want to goon out to porn together for hours.

Further Reading: Q&A: What Is Gooning, And What Makes It Appealing?

There really are no rules!

2. All Girls Are The Same

When a lot of people think of phone sex, they think about girls putting on a sultry, sexy voice, and getting turned on by every single thing that the person says.

Of course, some people are going to act like this. But in reality, phone sex operators are as diverse as anyone else! Perhaps more so than in other occupations in fact, because we have the freedom to truly be ourselves.

This means that if you’ve tried phone sex before and didn’t have a good time, you may have just not found someone that you’ve ‘clicked with’ yet.

Just like you won’t be friends – or even like every person that you meet, there are others out there that seem to connect with you on a deep level.

Personally, people have described me as light-hearted, funny, easy to talk to, and open minded. I may not be as ‘intense’ as some PSOs are, but again, it’s all about finding who you like, and who you don’t.

A lot of people have either one or a few regular PSOs that they call, and end up sticking with the ones they enjoy most.

3. You Can Only Talk About Certain Topics

One of the great things about phone sex – and one of the things that make it unique over other types of erotic stimulation, is that anything is on the table.

You are free to live out, roleplay or discuss your wildest or most unique fantasies – fantasies that might not be represented exactly the way you picture them in mainstream porn.

Some phone sex sites will have limits, where others do not.

For those that do phone sex with me directly – for example, outside of Niteflirt, which is the main site I’m on, everything is on the table. Nothing is off limits. No matter how extreme, depraved or socially unacceptable, we can talk about it without any sort of judgement or criticism.

With phone sex, you get to share something with a real person, in real-time. No other type of porn provides the freedom and immersiveness that a good phone sex session can provide.

4. It’s Overpriced

Despite the unique and incredible experience phone sex can be, some people consider it to be a bit pricey, for what you get.

I can empathize with this, as it’s definitely not cheap. Though believe it or not, prices have come down A LOT since the 90’s, and that’s before you factor in things like inflation.

Whereas prices used to be $3.99 a minute or more in decades past, you can now talk with talented professional PSOs for $1-2 a minute. And while some say phone sex is a rich man’s game, you can have a great experience for as little as $10.

In fact, while I do lots of calls that are 3 hours or longer, I do a lot as well that are between 10 and 20 minutes. This is more than enough time to have an explosive climax, and you can always masturbate beforehand prior to calling. Then, get on the phone with someone like me, who can help you have as explosive of an orgasm as possible.

It might not be something you do every day, but as my good friends Donna Meagle and Tom Haverford would say… treat yo’ self!

5. PSOs Don’t Care About You

This one’s kind of a myth about sex workers in general, but a lot of people believe that PSOs don’t actually care about their callers at all. That they’ll tell them whatever they want to hear, to get them to spend the most money.

This might be true for some PSOs – maybe even most of them, but it’s definitely not true for all of them.

The reality is, I don’t remember most of my callers. When you talk with hundreds of people a week, remembering each and every person is just impossible.

However, those that I’ve talked to multiple times – or had a particularly good time with, well of course I’ll remember them! Some of my callers have become my closest friends. I think about my callers when I’m offline and genuinely care how they’re doing. I’ve had people downright shocked when I talk with them again and ask them how their niece’s birthday party went, or their trip to Atlanta, stuff like that.

One of my favorite parts of being a PSO is I get to live vicariously through other people. Hearing all of their stories and experiences is so interesting and exciting to me!

Even if it’s just a really good chat about their favorite show, or cumming together hard on the phone, I remember this stuff. I am not heartless. I do not see callers as wallets, but as people. And I appreciate everyone that chooses to spend their time with me.

6. Only Men Call

Think that only men call phone sex operators? Think again!

It’s true that the overwhelming majority of my callers are men. Somewhere between 98 and 99% or so, if I had to guess. But I have had plenty of women callers as well.

Some of them were interested in women. Others were heterosexual, but had specific kinks or fantasies that they wanted to talk about. Others wanted to just ask for advice or discuss their existing relationship with their boyfriends or husbands. In fact, for those types of calls – the more educational calls, the balance of women is actually much higher.

No matter what your sexuality is or what gender you identify as, phone sex is just as open to you as it is to anyone else. And if you find the right person, you’re bound to have a good time regardless!

7. Phone Sex Can Be Scary Or Intimidating

Finally, there are a lot of newcomers that think phone sex is something to be scared of, or they find the idea of talking with someone in real-time intimidating.

I understand this a lot. We all worry about being judged, feeling rejected, or feeling shamed for our fantasies. In fact, some people have a hard time talking to others, period – let alone being vulnerable enough to share something about sex. This is completely understandable.

Thankfully, PSOs are some of the most kind, welcoming, open-minded people that you’ll meet. Even if you have trouble saying ‘hi’ to a girl in real life, phone sex operators will help you feel comfortable, and accepted. If you have trouble talking, we are trained to help lead the conversation and make it easy to talk with us.

Some people find talking with a PSO to be good practice before heading out into the real world, and talking with girls in person.

So, even if you’ve never tried phone sex before, I’d love to have the honor of being your first! Since again, so many people know me for my audio porn, I’ve done phone sex with A LOT of nervous people who have never tried it before. I promise you, you’ll have a good time!

Closing Thoughts

Phone sex is as alive as ever. Despite all the innovations that have happened with porn over the last few decades, phone sex remains one of the most exciting and immersive ways to live out your ultimate fantasies with others – all from the comfort of your home.

If you’re looking to try phone sex – either with someone new or even for the first time ever, I’d love to talk with you! You can learn more about phone sex with me by visiting LewdLexi.com/phone/.

And of course, if you have any questions, don’t hesitate to get in touch!

Have a wonderful day,

~ Lexi