Q&A: Do Girls Like Having Their Buttholes Touched?
A woman’s butthole is one of the most special places on her entire body, and also one of the most private.
And for many men, getting access to it – be it with their cock, their tongue, or even just their fingers, is the grand prize.
But do women actually enjoy having their buttholes touched or played with? Why or why not? Let’s dig a bit deeper into it… no pun intended!
It Depends On The Girl
If you put “do girls like…” in front of just about any question, the answer is always ‘it depends.’
About half the population are girls. We are talking about billions of people. There are always going to be some people that like it, and some that don’t.
Many women have no experience with anal play of any kind – even something as simple as having their buttholes touched by another person.
However, we know that the anus has many nerve endings, and it feels good to have it stimulated (from personal experience, especially by a tongue!) It’s just like touching their clit, or a man touching his penis – it’s going to feel good when it’s stimulated.
Of course, it’s important to know that a lot of sexual pleasure isn’t just physical, but it’s mental as well. And this seems to be especially true for women.
What Factors Influence It?
There may be mental roadblocks holding a woman back from enjoying any anal pleasure at all – to the point where she may not even want you seeing or mentioning her butthole at all.
Some of these may include:
- A fear that she won’t be clean.
- Concerns about the appearance of her anus.
- Previous sexual trauma.
- Fear of judgement.
- An inability to be comfortable with you back there.
Keep in mind that that these do not necessarily have anything to do with you, so you should not take them personally. Chances are, she may not be comfortable with anyone going anywhere near her butthole right now.
This of course, doesn’t mean that she won’t change her mind in the future. I’ve talked with many couples who only started exploring anal play after they’ve gotten married, or were together for years.
Unfortunately, it is common for women to be shy about their butts, so it may take some time for them to open up to you.
How To Get Your Girl More Comfortable With Her Butthole
If you want to add anal play to your sex life but one of you isn’t comfortable with the idea, I strongly encourage one or both of you to call me for personalized advice. Sex is meant to be fun, and anal play can be a big part of it, even if it never evolves all the way to full on anal sex.
However, there are some things the two of you may be able to do right now to help her become more comfortable.
First things first, make sure you openly communicate why she doesn’t like having her butthole touched, looked at, etc. Only when you get to the root of the issue can you really begin to solve it. I’ve had entire coaching sessions that have been solely focused on the why alone. Sometimes she may not know the exact reason, she just knows it makes her uncomfortable.
If it’s due to concerns about cleanliness, let her shower before sex. While running soapy water and scrubbing in between her butt cheeks should be perfectly sufficient, having baby wipes on hand can also help put her mind at ease.
This may seem kind of gross, but allowing her to touch her own butthole (or wiping it with a baby wipe) and sniffing it can prove immediately she’s 100% clean and has nothing to worry about.
Another thing that can really help is getting her used to having her ass touched in other areas. A massage is an effective way to do this, because you can focus on her outer cheeks, before moving your touch closer to her butt crack. Massages can also be quite arousing – particularly when done in an erotic setting, so this can help her feel comfortable. It’s all about taking it slow, and in steps. For example…
- Massaging her outer ass cheeks.
- Moving your hands closer in, rubbing against her butt crack.
- Massaging the inside of her butt cheeks / crack.
- Opening her butt up, allowing you to see her butthole.
- Running your fingers over it (but not stopping on it.)
- Deliberately touching her butthole.
Going from massaging to kissing can eventually turn into ass licking as well, if she’s open to it! Once she knows that it’s okay and you enjoy it, it will be easier to partake in in the future.
Of course, it’s very important that you respect her boundaries, and don’t push things any further if she’s not ready to go there. Remember, this doesn’t mean she won’t be ready in the future!
Closing Thoughts
Most girls enjoy having their buttholes played with, once they try it. However, it can take some time in order to get to that point, as the anus is often considered to be a taboo and intimate area of their bodies.
If you are having issues getting your partner to open up to butt play, I’d love to hear what you’ve tried, and what has or hasn’t worked!
Of course, if you’d like personalized advice, I highly recommend getting on the phone with me – I’d love to work with you to help the two of you out!
~ Lexi
Lewd Lexi is a professional adult voice actress, phone sex operator, and sexuality educator. Here on LewdLexi.com, she shares not only her newest releases and projects, but works to provide resources to give everyone a better sex life!