Do Women Enjoy Anal? Some Do! Here’s Why…

When it comes to sex, there’s no shortage of taboo topics that are whispered about in hushed voices or behind closed doors. One of those topics, of course, is anal sex – and more specifically, why women would choose to engage in it at all. The topic is often met with confusion, misunderstandings, and even judgment from those who don’t understand why women would want to “let a man do that” to them.

But here’s the thing: anal sex isn’t inherently painful or degrading, nor is it something that only “certain” women enjoy. In fact, according to one study, 94% of women who had anal sex reported having orgasms during it, and another survey by BadGirlsBible showed that 4.1% of women actually preferred anal sex over vaginal sex.

So, what’s the appeal? And why do so many women find pleasure in something that society often portrays as something only men should enjoy?

In this article, we’ll explore the physical, emotional, and mental reasons women enjoy anal sex, and how to make sure they have a great time when doing so.

The Physical Sensations Of Anal Sex

First and foremost, women engage in anal sex for the same reason as any other sexual act: pleasure. And contrary to popular belief, anal sex can be pleasurable for women when done correctly.

Both women and men have an abundance of nerve endings in and around their anus, which can provide a whole new world of pleasure when stimulated correctly. In fact, the anus is packed with more nerve endings per square inch than any other part of the body (aside from the clitoris and penis). This means that when done right, anal sex can lead to some incredibly intense orgasms, and a sensation that is still quite enjoyable – even if it isn’t seen to be as pleasurable as vaginal sex.

The key word here is “when done right.” A common misconception about anal sex is that it’s supposed to be painful and uncomfortable, especially for women. In reality, this shouldn’t be the case.

The first time you do anything sexually, it can feel uncomfortable or even slightly painful. This includes vaginal sex when you’re inexperienced, or even trying a new position for the first time. With patience, communication, and practice, anal sex can become pleasurable and even preferable for some women.

The Mental Side Of Anal Sex

Even more of a factor for me personally isn’t the physical pleasure, but the mental feeling I experience when I’ve engaged in anal sex in the past.

Anal sex can be an intense way to explore power dynamics. For some women, there’s an element of surrender and submission that comes with anal sex. It’s often seen as a more ‘taboo’ form of sex, so engaging in it can create a heightened sense of intimacy and vulnerability.

The act of allowing someone to penetrate this intimate area can make women feel incredibly vulnerable, which can be a turn-on for some. And for others, the feeling of being ‘filled up’ in this new, intense way can be a huge turn-on in itself.

It feels naughty, it feels raw, it feels slutty. It’s like I’m truly offering my entire self, like I’m yours to enjoy.

In addition to exploring power dynamics, some women feel more connected and intimate with their partners during anal sex.

In fact, many women don’t offer anal sex as freely as they would traditional vaginal sex. Instead, it’s saved for people they really like, or people that they feel more comfortable with. Considering the taboo nature of it and the fact that it requires even more preparation and trust, this makes sense. And since it’s done less frequently, the act can feel more intimate and special to them as well.

However, It Has To Be Done Right

Unlike vaginal sex, where the vagina naturally lubricates itself for penetration, the anus doesn’t naturally lubricate in the same way. Therefore, anal sex requires a lot more preparation than other types of penetrative sex. Otherwise, it WILL hurt, and everyone is going to have a bad time.

First things first, it’s extremely important to understand that porn is not at all a good representation of what anal is like.

Pornstars are used to having lots of anal, stretch extensively, and use ungodly amounts of lube. Never think you can ram an ass the same way you would a pussy, as this can be extremely painful.

Instead, ensure that she’s fully prepared beforehand – both mentally and physically. Follow the tips I lay out in this article to keep things clean, and use lots of lube. Silicone or oil-based lube can be great for longer anal sessions, as it doesn’t need to be reapplied as often as water-based lube.

Then, once you’re inside, go very slow. Communicate throughout the process, and only pick up the pace when you’ve been given the OK to do so.

If you want to be able to do anal again, it’s important that you make it as enjoyable as possible for her.

Conclusion

As we’ve covered, anal actually can be quite enjoyable for women, and isn’t just something that men like.

Between the physical sensation and the headspace women are put in when they’re getting fucked in the ass, it can be a very fun way to mix things up, and keep things spicy in the bedroom.

However, if it’s done carelessly, it can cause a lot of pain – even if she’s done it before. So, make sure that you’re careful, and take her needs into consideration.

Do that, and you’re both in for a good time!

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Otherwise, have fun with your buttfucking!

~ Lexi