In the vast and often misunderstood world of adult entertainment, one of the most debated topics is whether watching pornography can change a person’s sexual orientation. This is a question that has sparked countless discussions, studies, and personal reflections – especially with the rise of ‘straight’ men watching more gay or trans porn.

Some argue that porn can influence one’s sexual preferences and even their orientation, while others believe that one’s core sexual identity is deeply ingrained and unshakable by external influences.

In this article, we will delve into the complexities of this issue, examining both the scientific and anecdotal evidence. We will explore what experts have to say, what the research shows, and real-life stories from individuals who have grappled with this question. By the end, I hope to provide a nuanced understanding that helps you form your own informed opinion on this intriguing and often misunderstood topic.

What Actually IS Sexual Orientation, Anyway?

Before we dive into the debate, it’s essential to understand what sexual orientation actually is. Sexual orientation refers to an enduring pattern of emotional, romantic, and/or sexual attractions to men, women, other genders, a combination of these, or neither. It can also refer to a person’s sense of identity based on those attractions, related behaviors, and membership in a community of others who share those attractions.

Sexual orientation is a spectrum that includes heterosexuality (attracted to the opposite sex), homosexuality (attracted to the same sex), bisexuality (attracted to both sexes), and asexuality (little to no sexual attraction). Some individuals also identify as queer, pansexual, or use other labels to describe their attractions and identities.

The Scientific Side

Before we look at anecdotal stories, let’s look at the studies behind porn use and sexuality.

One of the most compelling arguments against the idea that porn can change sexual orientation comes from the biological perspective. According to numerous studies, sexual orientation has a strong genetic and biological basis. Research has shown that there are differences in brain structure and function between individuals of different sexual orientations. For example, studies have found that certain areas of the brain can differ in size and activity between heterosexual and homosexual individuals.

Moreover, twin studies have consistently shown a higher concordance rate for sexual orientation among identical twins compared to fraternal twins, suggesting a significant genetic component. For instance, a study by Bailey and Pillard (1991) found that if one identical twin was gay, there was a 52% chance that the other twin was also gay, compared to only a 22% chance for fraternal twins.

While the biological perspective suggests that sexual orientation is largely innate, environmental factors can also play a role. These factors include hormonal influences during fetal development, early childhood experiences, and social and cultural contexts. However, these environmental influences are generally thought to shape the expression of sexual orientation rather than change it fundamentally.

The Role of Pornography

The idea that porn can influence sexual preferences is more widely accepted than the idea that it can change sexual orientation. Pornography often exposes viewers to a wide range of sexual scenarios, fetishes, and acts that they might not have considered before. This exposure can lead to the development of new sexual interests or the reinforcement of existing ones.

For example, someone who has never considered trying a particular sexual act might become curious after seeing it in porn. Over time, this curiosity can turn into a preference, and the act might become a regular part of their sexual repertoire. This is not the same as changing one’s core sexual orientation, but it can certainly broaden one’s sexual horizons.

In other words, it can expose underlying natural interests, and then reinforce them by repeated exposure. The more you masturbate to a specific thing and enjoy the experience, the more you’ll start to crave it.

This is why fetishes that weren’t all that interesting to you at first can escalate to be an absolute necessity to remain aroused.

For more information, see this article: Q&A: How Do You Get Rid Of A Fetish?

The question of whether porn can actually change a person’s underlying sexual orientation is more controversial. Some argue that repeated exposure to a particular type of content can desensitize viewers and potentially influence their attractions. However, the scientific consensus is that sexual orientation is a deeply ingrained aspect of one’s identity that is not easily altered.

The Anecdotal Side

Now, let’s flip things around, and look at anecdotal personal stories.

While scientific studies provide a broad overview, personal stories can offer a more nuanced perspective. Some individuals report that watching porn has influenced their sexual behavior or interests, but not their core orientation.

For example, Alex, a 28-year-old heterosexual man, shares, “I watched a lot of gay porn out of curiosity and to understand my gay friends better. It definitely made me more open-minded and curious about different types of sexual acts, but it never changed my core attraction to women. However, there are some elements of it I found arousing now, where I never thought about them before.”

On the other hand, there are stories of individuals who report that watching porn has led them to question their sexual orientation. Jamie, a 34-year-old woman, recounts, “I watched a lot of lesbian porn and found myself increasingly attracted to women. It took me a while to come to terms with it, but I realized that I am bisexual. However, I don’t think the porn changed my orientation; it just helped me recognize a part of myself that I had suppressed.”

The Role Of Cognitive Dissonance

Cognitive dissonance, the psychological discomfort experienced when holding two or more contradictory beliefs, can play a role in how individuals interpret their experiences with porn. For some, watching porn that features a different orientation can create dissonance, leading them to question their own attractions. However, this questioning does not necessarily mean a change in orientation, but rather a period of self-reflection and exploration.

Conclusion

In conclusion, the scientific consensus is that pornography does not have the power to fundamentally change a person’s core sexual orientation. While it can influence sexual preferences and behaviors, it is unlikely to alter the deeply ingrained aspects of one’s sexual identity. Personal stories and experiences can offer valuable insights, but they do not provide conclusive evidence of orientation change.

If you or someone you know is exploring their sexuality through porn, it is essential to not jump to conclusions, and accept whatever feelings you’re experiencing. They may not be permanent, and even if they were, it’s not a problem to become stressed about.

Ultimately, the key is to understand and embrace one’s true sexual identity, whatever that may be, and to use porn as a tool for exploration and enhancement, and not to try and ‘force’ a change onto yourself.

~ Lexi

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Porn is often attributed to being the cause of many breakups or even divorces – which is why it’s so important to be on the same page regarding its use. However, if we’re going to fixate on the bad things it can cause, we owe equal time to explore the benefits it can provide as well.

In reality, as long as you two are both on board with each other watching porn, then watching it together as a couple can actually be quite a good thing.

So, in this article I’ll cover 6 different benefits you might not have thought about before. Who knows, maybe it’ll be worth trying out!

1. You Develop New Ideas To Try Out Together

I should probably say that the sex you see in porn is not a good representation of what sex should be like in real life. I do not believe at all that those who are inexperienced with sex should use pornography as a model for what to expect, how to act, or what to do.

But what about those who have had real, meaningful sex before?

Well, porn companies are known for their creative (and let’s be honest, sometimes ridiculous) scenarios. It turns out there are thousands of different ways to spice up what is ultimately, just a penis going in and out of a vagina, or an ass, or a mouth.

A lot of these ideas aren’t going to appeal to you. However, a lot of the fun in watching porn is the exploration, the new things that you find. Porn is a safe way to introduce new ideas to your partner if you’re not yet comfortable with communicating all of your desires directly.

Who knows – you may just discover something fun the two of you can do together – be it a new sex position, a new fetish to indulge in, or a new roleplay scenario to try out!

Tip: Consider listening to audio porn, which can get even more creative with its scenarios! This is because we aren’t bound by production budgets that have to make believable visuals. A low-budget sci-fi porno would be cheesy for example. With audio, we can still make it really immersive!

2. It Can Lead To Really Long, Fun Sex Sessions

Sex is fun. Most people want to have sex for as long as possible.

Of course, the issue with that often comes down to getting bored or losing arousal. As attractive as you may find your partner, the brain craves novelty, and it’s simply easier to stay horny for longer periods of time when you’re able to mix things up.

While I wish that I could snap my fingers and make a harem of attractive girls pop up in front of you, that would probably be a little more problematic than just, well, taking a visit over to The Hub. Or Spankbang. Or Xhamster. Or whatever is the main site of your choice.

Throwing some porn up and fucking until you can’t hold back any longer – then taking a break or engaging in some intimate play, can lead to sex lasting for literally hours.

As a woman, getting to cum over and over again while we enjoyed this together would be a real treat.

Remember, the more fun you make it for her, the more she’ll want to do it again!

3. It Can Help You Two Feel More Comfortable Together

In my opinion, this is one of the biggest benefits of them all.

Showing your partner your sexuality requires you to be vulnerable, and it can be really difficult to let your guard down – even if you feel comfortable with them.

Porn gives you an opportunity to explore each other’s sexuality in a calm, controlled, and fun environment.

For example, maybe there’s a kink or a roleplay scenario that you’ve fantasized about playing out, but you’ve been too shy to bring it up.

You could start breaking down this wall by watching some porn of it together first, and seeing that your partner doesn’t react poorly.

Then, you could ease into trying it out together!

I’ve seen entire couples’ sex lives change due to small acts like this!

4. It Can Aid Feelings Of Jealousy

Whether we like to admit it or not, humans crave variety when it comes to sex – even if we’re fully committed in a monogamous relationship.

This doesn’t mean that you or your partner ever has any intention to cheat, but this is simply the way we are wired.

Watching porn can help you or your partner realize that yes, you may get aroused by the sight of someone else. However, this doesn’t mean that you love your partner any less, or that you don’t want to be with them.

Pretty much every guy would look at an attractive woman and admit – at least to himself, that he’d enjoy sex with her. It would be unnatural to feel otherwise.

One of the greatest ways to overcome our fears is to be exposed to them, and see that we turn out okay.

Having your partner witness you getting horny for someone else – but still remaining committed and faithful to them might help them feel better about your natural urges.

5. Watching Porn Together Is A Great Way To Mix Things Up

Finally, watching porn together is a great way to spice up your sex life a little bit – even if you just use it as foreplay, before focusing on each other.

Obviously, you don’t need to watch porn every single time that you have sex.

However, by having new things to try out together, this can help sex remain exciting and novel, especially when it starts feeling like a routine.

You might consider planning a ‘date’ to watch porn together every Sunday, or maybe it’s something you do together when your wife is on her period as sort of a fun treat.

Ultimately, it is between the two of you to decide what the right balance is.

Conclusion

As long as the two of you don’t have any moral qualms about pornography, trying it out together can be a fun idea!

The worst that can happen is the two of you decide it isn’t right for you, and you don’t try it again for a while. Ultimately, no real harm is done.

If I may be so bold, I would like to draw attention to my own audio porn. This can be a good way to start or enhance your experience if traditional porn isn’t doing it for you. The fact that it’s audio-only allows you to focus even more on each other, while still providing some erotic stimulation, and some fun scenarios to think about.

My Patreon has hundreds of audios for you to listen to completely ad-free, as to not disrupt the experience at all. You can learn more by visiting my Patreon page here.

Thanks for reading, and have fun!

~ Lexi

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Enter ethical porn, the kale smoothie of erotic content – still delicious, but with zero guilt. It’s a movement gaining steam, with more people realizing they can get their kicks without exploiting performers or supporting shady business practices. And by the way, I am not super hardcore about guilt tripping yourself, I encourage you to continue enjoying what you like. As long as you’re not like, getting off on pornstars being mistreated or something.

However, this topic matters a lot to some people, and I wanted to shine some light on it.

So, what exactly is ethical porn? Why are people flocking to it? And where the hell do you even find it? Buckle up, because we’re diving deep into the world of performer-friendly flicks, pay-per-creator platforms, and why ethical porn might just save your sex life (and conscience).

What Even Is Ethical Porn?

Ethical porn is like the organic, fair-trade coffee of adult entertainment. It’s porn made with respect – for performers, for consent, for diversity, and for the audience’s right to not feel anything negative at all afterward.

Instead of treating actors like replaceable cogs in a revenue machine, ethical producers ensure fair pay, safe working conditions, and the kind of consent that would make your college’s mandatory sexual harassment training proud. Performers can tap out at any time, and content isn’t manipulated or leaked without permission – unlike some no-name tube sites where revenge porn magically appears like a bad sequel nobody asked for.

It’s also porn without manipulation in place. Studios may operate legally, but they aren’t always ethical. For example, a performer may appear on set, film for an hour, then be told that unless she does this anal scene or let the guy physically slap, punch or hit her, she will not be paid for the scene.

Legal? Somehow, yes. Ethical? Absolutely not.

And let’s talk about diversity. Mainstream porn tends to operate on a strict “Ken and Barbie, but with worse acting” policy, but ethical porn celebrates real bodies, people of all types of sexualities, and pleasure that doesn’t sound like a dolphin being strangled. It’s far more real.

Oh, and some ethical platforms even reinvest in sex education, LGBTQ+ rights, or environmental causes. Because if you’re going to rub one out, why not help the planet while doing it?

Why The Sudden Shift? (Hint: The Internet Ruined Everything, Then Saved It)

Back in the VHS era, porn was basically run by a handful of shady studios who treated performers about as well as your average fast-food manager treats their workers. Then the internet happened, and suddenly anyone could make porn.

At first, this was… a mixed bag. For every indie creator trying to make ethical content, there were five tube sites posting stolen videos with ads for “HOT SINGLES IN YOUR AREA (who totally exist, by the way).” But slowly, independent creators started reclaiming control. Platforms like Onlyfans, Fansly, Manyvids and so on let performers own their work, and suddenly ethical porn wasn’t just a niche market – it was a full-blown movement.

Now? Audiences are catching on in droves. People are realizing that watching exploited 20-year-olds being pressured into scenes they’ll regret isn’t just unethical – it’s also gotten a bit stale. The same old formula, over and over again.

Ethical porn focuses on authenticity, chemistry, and (gasp!) actual pleasure, making it way hotter than whatever awkward, overproduced studio crap is flooding the mainstream. We’ve seen a rise in softcore porn as well because of this, which you can learn more about here.

Also, paying creators directly means no middlemen taking a cut, no sketchy ad money, and – most importantly – no feeling like you just funded a sweatshop for orgasms.

Where To Find Ethical Porn

So, where does one find this ethical unicorn of adult content? Don’t worry, my morally conscious friend – I’ve got you covered.

First up, we’ve got pay-per-creator platforms, the indie darlings of porn. Sites like OnlyFans, Fansly, Patreon, etc. let creators sell directly to fans, meaning your money goes straight to the person making the content – not some sketchy CEO in a poorly lit office. It’s like Etsy, but with fewer knickknacks and way more naked people. While these platforms do take a percentage of the payment, creators do get most of every purchase – not just a one-time filming fee.

If you’re not into subscriptions, try ethical tube sites like Make Love Not Porn or Bellessa. They offer free (or cheap) content without the usual ad-ridden nightmares.

And for those who like to let their imagination do the heavy lifting, there’s audio porn (hi, that’s me!) and written erotica. Sites like my Patreon – with hundreds of audios to choose from, and Literotica prove that sometimes, the sexiest thing of all is not seeing some dude’s poorly lit close-up at an unflattering angle.

Why Ethical Porn Is Actually Better Porn

You might be thinking, “Okay, but is ethical porn even good, or is it just the Whole Foods of masturbation—overpriced and underwhelming for what it costs?”

First of all, rude – don’t be hating on Whole Foods like that! Second of all – yes, it’s better. Mainstream porn treats sex like a factory assembly line: rigid scripts, fake enthusiasm, and sex positions that only look good on camera and feel like orthopedic disasters in real life. Ethical porn, meanwhile, focuses on real pleasure, real chemistry, and (here’s a wild concept) real enjoyment from everyone involved.

Plus, ethical porn avoids the weird, exploitative tropes that make mainstream porn so cringeworthy. No more “step-sibling stuck in a dryer” nonsense, no more “barely legal” labeling that feels like they’re walking the fine line on purpose, and no more actresses pretending to enjoy something they clearly don’t.

And let’s talk about the shame factor. If mainstream porn leaves you feeling like you need a 40-minute shower and a vow of celibacy, ethical porn is like the afterglow of good sex – pleasant, relaxed, and entirely free of existential dread.

Closing Thoughts

Mainstream porn isn’t going anywhere – after all, the old studio format will always have some appeal. But ethical porn is growing fast, and as people demand better treatment for performers, the industry will have to adapt.

So next time you’re in the mood, it’s worth giving some of the more ethical forms of porn a shot – as an independent creator myself, we truly thank you for it.

Now go forth, support sex workers fairly, and remember: The future of porn is diverse, respectful, and way hotter than whatever you’ve been settling for.

(P.S. If you’re into ethical audio porn that is far more immersive than anything you’d find on Brazzers, check out my Patreon for the good stuff.)

~ Lexi

Lewd Lexi

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From magazines, to tapes and DVDs, to high speed internet allowing a near-unlimited amount of videos to be streamed in HD, this is still only the tip of the iceberg.

There are more ways than ever to enjoy porn, and in this article I’ll be sharing some that you might not have ever heard of – allowing for entirely new erotic experiences!

Without any further ado, let’s get started.

1. AI Text Generation

Believe it or not, this is one of the primary ways the younger generations are consuming porn. It is EXPLODING in popularity and for good reason – it’s freaking incredible.

Whether you want to actually write a story using something like NovelAI or you want to engage in erotic roleplay with your favorite TV, game or anime characters, there are an infinite number of possibilities here.

Literally anything your mind can think of, you can roleplay out. It doesn’t matter how unique, fringe or extreme your fantasies are. It doesn’t matter if nobody has ever created a single story about it before.

AI language models are so powerful now that they can make any scene or scenario work. Imagine being able to live out your biggest fantasies an infinite number of times – and since you’re in control, it never gets boring.

I recommend NovelAI.net for storytelling, and their upcoming product Aetherroom for roleplays. If you have a beefy PC, using Sillytavern is ideal. Character cards can be found on a website called Characterhub.org – make sure to make an account so you can turn on NSFW cards!

For a mobile solution, Poly.ai on your device’s app store is a solid option, but not as powerful or as creative as the previously mentioned options.

2. Audio Porn

Okay, if you’re part of my audience you’re probably familiar with this already, since it’s what I’m best known for, but still. I had to mention it.

Audio porn has a performer reading through a well-written script, creating an immersive story for you to listen through and enjoy. Because we’re not bound by the limitations of a video production, script writers and performers are able to put far more thought into their performances, AND we’re not bound by physical limitations.

This means you’re able to go through scenarios that aren’t possible or feasible in real life.

Using world building, sound design and creativity, we’re able to help paint a picture in your head that’s far more vivid and exciting than what you might see on a screen.

You have to be a little patient to really enjoy audio, but it’s all that setup and world building that makes them so erotic and powerful – like a grand crescendo to an epic climax.

If you’re interested in trying out audio porn, I recommend signing up to my Patreon, which has several hundred stories for you to enjoy!

3. Adult Games

Adult games have come a long way in the last 15 years, too!

Gone are the days where a “game” is just a flash animation with a couple of buttons. Modern porn games often have a lot of thought put into them, have full open worlds, and some resemblance of a story.

Yes, you still have your button mashers and silly animations that hardly qualify as games at all. But with development being easier, along with major stores like Steam now supporting adult content, the industry has never been better.

You may not turn to a game every time that you want to relax, but they’re a nice option to mix things up. And more are being released every day.

4. Synced Toys

Did you know that some studios can sync up with automatic sex toys?

Toys like the Lovense Max 2 or the Solace Pro can sync up with what’s happening in the videos, meaning that when a performer for example, has a penis slide into them, the toy can simulate that same exact feeling.

This adds an entirely new degree of immersion, and allows you to simply lay back, watch the video, and enjoy, as if she were actually there in front of you.

The toys cost a bit of money, and you have to find videos that support them, but they can easily become quite addicting due to how immersive and pleasurable it can be.

When my Patreon grows to a bigger level, I plan on introducing sex toy support for my audios as well, which should be pretty neat!

5. Hentai

Like audio, hentai isn’t bound by the physical limitations of the real world.

It also tends to come out of Japan, which is notorious for its… weird and well, creative porn.

For example, you may have heard about the classic tentacles, but what about an elf girl that can only get horny when she’s having a near-death experience? Or how about a battle show where people have to power up by drinking breast milk, but still takes itself extremely seriously?

Hentai can’t be quite as creative as AI text, since well, somebody has to actually animate that shit, but it can still push the limits far beyond what you’d think the human mind is capable of.

I can’t link to piracy sites here, but let me just say, hentai is out there if you go looking for it.

6. VR Porn

Finally, if you’re willing to shell out a few hundred dollars for a VR headset (like the Valve Index or the Meta Quest 3), then nothing will be more immersive for you than VR porn.

Modern headsets are good enough to where it actually looks like they’re in the room with you. Plus, since immersion is the name of their game, many VR studios do include the automatic sex toy scripts with their videos as well.

Our grandfathers would have had a heart attack imagining just how crazy this is. I’ve tried it myself, and it’s actually at the point where it’s worth the hype.

I’m a simple girl. I’ve dreamed about having lots of hot women shove their asses in my face, and with VR porn, I have basically lived it.

SexLikeReal is the best starting point once you have yourself a headset, as with a subscription to them you can access tens of thousands of videos across hundreds of studios.

They’re basically the Netflix of VR porn, after all!

Closing Thoughts

A lot of the time, you’ll simply want to pull up your favorite tube site and scroll around.

However, things like AI chatting, games, audio porn and so on are a fantastic way to spice things up. Although some of them are a bit higher effort, they come with a higher reward as well – a more memorable experience, with a much stronger orgasm at the end of it all.

I’m curious, is there anything else that you’d add to this list? As an avid lover of porn, I’m always on the lookout for new and novel experiences, myself.

Let me know!

~ Lexi

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Based on the popular Guitar Hero series, this is a fun way to fap that not only is quite unique, but actually can help benefit your stamina as well, helping you to last longer in bed.

Or, goon out to porn longer without cumming, if that’s your thing.

So, what is it, how do you try it, and how could you make it even MORE fun?

In this article, I’ll be answering all of these questions and more!

What Is Cock Hero?

Essentially, Cock Hero is a rhythm game that has you watching videos that people put together, and stroking your cock to the beat.

They will typically include rhythmic music, and have a bar going across the bottom that show you when to stroke. The rhythms will vary over time as the songs change, or as you progress to different ‘stages.’

Cock Hero isn’t made by any one company. Instead, dedicated individuals put the videos together, and upload them on the internet for anyone to enjoy for free.

Videos are typically compilations of many small clips from different videos, and may last from several minutes to several hours.

Many Cock Hero videos are centered around specific themes – for example, butts, teens, Asians, squirting, and more. That being said, others have more variety in nature, but may restrict different themes to different stages within the same video. Oftentimes, the stage ends when the song does.

All Cock Hero videos have two difficulty modes that you can set for yourself, though.

Remember, the goal is to pump to the beat. The traditional way to play is to do a full stroke (up and down) with each marker that passes. If you’re new however, you can also do a half-stroke – for example, instead of going all the way up AND down, you can just alternate between going up and down, one direction each time.

Where Can You Play Cock Hero?

Honestly, I find the idea of Cock Hero to be pretty fun – and I have been known to play myself with a dildo! So, where can you try it out?

I would avoid sites like Pornhub and Xhamster, as they moderate uploads quite heavily. And since most Cock Hero videos use lots of clips from lots of different studios, they’re technically breaking copyright law since they don’t have permission to use those clips.

Pornhub and Xhamster know this, so you won’t find many Cock Hero videos on either of those two platforms.

Instead, I recommend looking on sites where people can upload freely. Spankbang is my personal favorite at the moment, as it’s perhaps the most popular that doesn’t restrict uploading.

That being said, videos do get pulled down here from time to time, so I highly recommend downloading your favorites. If you need one to start with, here’s a link to one I personally enjoy!

You can use Plex to load them up on your TV, and REALLY have a good time!

How To Make Your Cock Hero Experience Even Better

Okay, so – Cock Hero on its own is pretty awesome. But there’s a lot you can do to make your experience even better!

The first thing I’d recommend if you’re by yourself is to try playing Cock Hero while using an onahole. An onahole is like a Fleshlight, but feels significantly better and there’s a lot more variety to them. They seriously enhance the pleasure to an entirely new level, and many people say that they feel even better than a real vagina!

I’ve put together an entire buying guide for onaholes that also gives my top recommendations in this article here.

Or, you can jump straight into my favorite Onahole sites here – Onahole.com (United States) | Motsutoys.com (Europe)

Of course, if you have a partner, you can always just play together!

In fact, studies show that watching porn together leads to higher relationship satisfaction in the long-term, and Cock Hero is an excellent way for the both of you to have some fun at the same time! Instead of stroking to the beat, you’d be fucking to it.

Finally, if you’d like, you can also play with me!

A lot of my phone sex callers enjoy watching porn together, and there’s no reason we couldn’t play Cock Hero at the same time!

In fact, being able to talk and hear each other enjoying it will only amplify the experience, making it all the more exciting.

You can learn more about talking to me on the phone on this page here!

Closing Thoughts

If you’ve never heard of Cock Hero before, I’m happy to be the one to introduce you to it!

It’s not quite as popular as it used to be in the past, due to Pornhub restricting uploads to verified users. However, there are still hundreds, maybe even thousands of videos out there for you to enjoy. So why not find one that you like, and try it out?

If you’d like to play Cock Hero together or simply just talk, considering doing a call with me! I’m told that I’m pretty easy to talk to and have fun with, so it’s definitely going to be a good time for us all!

Of course, if you’d like to share some of your favorite Cock Hero videos with me, do me a favor and link them down below – I’d love to take a look and possibly goon out to them.

Thanks for reading, and have fun! With enough practice, you too can become the next Cock Hero champion.

~ Lexi

Lewd Lexi

Lewd Lexi is a professional adult voice actress, phone sex operator, and sexuality educator. Here on LewdLexi.com, she shares not only her newest releases and projects, but works to provide resources to give everyone a better sex life!

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And considering that we have millions of videos at our fingertips, it’s no wonder people are spending more time than ever enjoying all the erotic content the web has to offer.

But is porn actually considered a form of cheating? Is it something that poses a threat to your relationship, and what’s people’s general take on this topic?

I did some research to find out exactly what other people think, and in this article, I’ll be sharing my findings! I’ll also be sharing some tips to help get your partner on board if they are uncomfortable with the idea of porn, but you enjoy watching it yourself.

How Do You Define Cheating?

Ultimately, the answer comes down to what you define as ‘cheating’ in your relationship. And truthfully, this varies from person to person, and couple to couple.

On one extreme end, some people consider something as simple as light flirting, or even just fantasizing about another person to be cheating. Enough to end a marriage, even. These people believe that ALL sexual thoughts should only be directed towards each other, and involving anyone else in your sex life, even if it’s just a mental picture, is crossing the line.

Other people allow different degrees of sexual acts before considering it cheating. For example, going to strip clubs and receiving a lap dance – even if it makes you cum would be fine, but actually having sex would be crossing the line.

Further Reading: Q&A: Is It Okay To Cum During A Lap Dance? (+ Tips!)

Still, some people even consider sex to be okay as long as there is no romance or intimacy between you.

So, there is no clear answer to whether porn itself can be considered cheating. It all comes down to what the two of you actually define as cheating, and what the two of you are each comfortable with.

Is Interaction The Benchmark For ‘Crossing The Line?’

One thing I’ve noticed while talking with couples – and callers on the phone, is that not all porn is equal.

Passively watching a video of a famous pornstar might be completely fine. However, the internet has evolved a lot since then.

Today, we have a lot of new forms of porn that weren’t available 20 years ago. For example, we have cam sites that allow you to interact with the models in real-time, even taking them one-on-one for private shows. We have interactive sex toys that performers can control to stimulate you. We have heaps of Onlyfans girls that hustle hard to keep your subscription, sometimes talking with customers for hours a day. We have VR porn that actually makes you feel like you’re in the room with the performer. The list goes on and on.

One thing I’ve noticed is that the more interactive the experience is, the more it tends to make the partner uncomfortable.

It does not matter that you’ll never actually pursue a relationship with the girl you’re dming on Onlyfans. The fact that it takes your sexual attention away from the media itself, and places it more towards the actual person – AND the two of you are off enjoying each other together, makes interactive websites a lot more problematic for couples.

In a monogamous relationship, I think this is fair for most people – there’s a reasonable assumption you won’t have sexual interactions with other people, at least that’s how society as a whole seems to view it. I personally do not think porn is a problem, so long as it’s not coming at the expense of a relationship entirely (i.e, your partner is not avoiding sex with you to watch porn instead, stuff like that.)

That being said, I may be a bit biased – I work in the adult industry, I make my own porn, and I get off on the idea of my future partner bringing new people into the bedroom to play with. For me personally, I will want to make their every sexual fantasy come true, so for me personally, crossing the line is when we are no longer each other’s number one, he’s falling out of love with me and into love with someone else, and so on. But as far as sex itself, anything goes in my book. I understand that’s not how it is for most couples, but that’s my personal view on things.

Set Expectations Early

In any case, in order to avoid any disappointment and frustration, you’ll need to set expectations between the two of you early. If you’ve never talked about it before, now would be a good time to have a deep, analytical conversation about what you consider cheating and what doesn’t.

You may know for example that you are okay with never actually having sex with another woman, but you won’t be able to avoid watching porn.

Your sex life is important, and understanding everyone’s boundaries and rules ensures that you’re sexually compatible with each other. And if you’re not, it’s better to find this out early on, so you can avoid wasting time with someone that just isn’t right for you. Of course, I’ll be sharing some tips in a minute that might help sway your partner’s mind.

This is a big topic, and you really need to think about it. It’s easy to avoid porn for the first few months of a relationship when it’s new and exciting, and the two of you are having sex all the time. But what about 2 years from now? What if your partner stops being in the mood for sex as they get older?

When choosing a life partner, this is an important thing to think about!

How To Bring Your Partner On Board

Most of the time, it’s the woman in the relationship that has an issue with porn. That’s just the way it is. It could be because men are hardwired to want to fuck as many different women as possible, or it could be because society places such an emphasis on women’s looks, and their ability to lock down a good man. Whatever the cause, 9 out of 10 times I talk with people about concerns surrounding porn, it’s the woman with the concerns.

So, how can you help your wife or girlfriend feel more okay with it?

To start, reiterate that you aren’t watching porn because of them. Porn can create a lot of insecurities for women, because they’re comparing themselves to the world’s hottest people, doing sex acts that they may not have any interest in. Remind her that you find her attractive, you love having sex with her, and she will always be your number one priority.

Make sure she knows that you love her just the way she is, and she doesn’t need to change herself for you. Just because you’re watching say, a blonde woman on your screen, doesn’t mean that you wish she’d dye her hair blonde.

After that, see how you can get them involved! Make the experience about them, rather than the girls on the screen. Look for opportunities to watch porn together.

If jumping straight into it is too much, maybe put on an erotic movie to watch without whipping out your cock and jerking it when the sex scenes come on. Or, come up with an idea the two of you would like to try out in the bedroom, then watch a video or two for inspiration before trying it out yourself.

Make it fun and keep it focused on her, and before long she may be the one bringing up the idea of porn. It can enhance your sex life after all, and studies show that couples that watch porn together experience higher satisfaction in their relationship. Go science, right?

Closing Thoughts

When it comes down to it, whether or not porn is considered cheating is entirely dependent on what you two actually define as cheating. To some people, even thinking of another person is cheating, where as others don’t even mind threesomes as long as you are still devoted to each other.

Speaking of which, if you want to learn how to convince your wife to let you have a threesome, be sure to check out this article here.

Anyhow, I’d love to hear your thoughts through the comment form below. Do you consider porn cheating? If so, why? If not, what WOULD be crossing the line for you?

I’m really interested to hear what you have to say!

~ Lexi

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Can you hire one for a day, and how would you go about doing it?

Let’s be honest, a lot of people have probably thought about what it would be like to fuck their favorite pornstar at least once. So, let’s look at whether or not this can actually be done, and what hiring a porn star entails.

Can You Hire A Pornstar?

By their very nature, pornstars are just contractors. They are hired out for work, no different than hiring an electrician or a plumber.

The only difference is, pornstars do a lot better at taking care of your pipes. (Okay, that was a bad joke.)

But seriously, the pornstars you see on your screen were filmed because someone booked them, hired them, and paid them for the shot.

There, they must be available to hire, if they’re still in the business.

The question is, are YOU able to hire them?

Small Studios

The truth is, if you are a small studio and you can afford to book a specific performer, you shouldn’t have a problem getting them to work on your project.

They will want to see that you are a legitimate studio, running a legitimate business. Having all of your legal setup in order – as well as a history of scenes shot with other performers, makes it far more likely to be taken seriously.

Many pornstars are managed by talent agencies, and the bookings will take place through them.

Typically, agencies will list the models they work with on their website, and will provide instructions on how to proceed with booking them. Of course, just because they represent a specific model, does not mean that the model will be available for your project.

Remember that this is a business relationship, and you should not expect free reign to have fun with the talent that you book.

Treating pornstars in an unprofessional manner not only tarnishes your reputation, but can even lead to sexual harassment charges or even prison time if you break the law. They are people, they have the same rights as anyone else, and you would be booking them for work.

Private ‘Fun’

What if you don’t run a studio, and just want to spend a day with your favorite pornstar?

This is where things get more tricky.

While it’s not unheard of for pornstars to do other sex work on the side – including meeting up with individuals, this is handled on a case-by-case basis.

As you might imagine, meeting up with people is an inconvenience at best, and a huge safety risk at worst.

Considering that real studios:

• Pay on time / reliably
• STD test all of their performers
• Are safe to show up at
• Move through the work in an organized and quick fashion

…It’s no wonder that performers would rather work through them, even if they would make promising money doing something else.

What Would It Cost To Hire A Pornstar?

So, let’s say that you did want to hire a pornstar for your project. What could you expect to pay for their work?

The exact rates will vary depending on who you’re trying to book, their prominence, the amount of work they currently have, the specific acts you want to perform, and more.

And of course, you’ll need to pay all travel expenses as well, if your desired performer does not live in your area. (This is one reason so many porn studios operate out of Los Angeles or Miami.)

Generally speaking, you can expect to pay a few hundred dollars for someone completely new to the industry, to several thousand dollars for a top-of-the-line performer.

Typically speaking, $800-1,500 per scene is typical for many pornstars, excluding travel fees. This also does not include any other staff that would typically be present for a porn shoot.

Additionally, additional rates may be charged for extreme sex acts or fetishes that are not traditionally done.

Remember: Pornstars Are Not Escorts!

I must say again that pornstars are not escorts, nor are they prostitutes.

While some may do escorting work on the side, you will not get anywhere thinking of them this way.

Just because someone is willing to get fucked on a camera, does not mean that they have any interest meeting up with others, are being recorded in a non-business setting.

Do not get upset if a pornstar you’re looking for isn’t available, or doesn’t have any interest in doing anything with you.

Getting anything more than traditional work is rare, so a ‘no’ shouldn’t come as a surprise – if you even get a response at all.

Closing Thoughts

Although it is possible to hire a pornstar for a day, most pornstars will typically only work with established studios.

To inquire about booking one of your favorite pornstars, contact the agency that represents them for more information.

And of course, if you have any other questions, ask them below!

– Lewd Lexi

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Lewd Lexi is a professional adult voice actress, phone sex operator, and sexuality educator. Here on LewdLexi.com, she shares not only her newest releases and projects, but works to provide resources to give everyone a better sex life!

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