Why Do Women Have Orgasms? 5 Theories That Make Sense

The purpose of the male orgasm is quite obvious. Without it, we wouldn’t exist – sperm has to enter a woman’s vagina if she wants to get pregnant without medical intervention. So chances are, you’re here because your dad orgasmed while inside of your mom.

But what about the female orgasm?

If pregnancy can happen regardless of whether or not the woman orgasms, why do we have them? If most bodily functions serve an evolutionary purpose, why are women capable of orgasming at all?

Scientists have quite a few theories, and in this article I’ll be exploring several that actually make a lot of sense!

1. Orgasms May ‘Suck Up’ Semen, Aiding In Pregnancy

The first theory is that female orgasms actually do aid in conception, by moving semen up through the cervix and into the uterus.

The idea is that the contractions create sort of a negative pressure that helps ‘suck up’ the semen, drawing it into the uterus and getting it closer to where it needs to be.

Generally speaking, the more healthy sperm you can get into the uterus, the more likely you are to get pregnant.

However, studies on orgasming improving fertility aren’t confirmed, so there isn’t evidence that this makes a substantial difference.

That being said, it certainly couldn’t hurt!

2. Orgasms Increase Feelings Of Bonding

Making a woman orgasm might literally aid in helping her fall in love with you.

When both women and men orgasm, the brain is flooded with serotonin, which promotes the feeling of satisfaction, and oxytocin, which is nicknamed the love or bonding hormone.

It also promotes relaxation, trust, reduced anxiety, and psychological stability.

In other words, orgasms help women feel attached and want to settle down and spend time with their partners, bonding on a deeper and more emotional level. This may also be one of the reasons why men have a refractory period, where they can’t have sex again for some time.

Successful procreation isn’t just about getting pregnant, but forming partnerships that help the two of you stay alive and thrive. So, back in our caveman days this was pretty important!

3. They Improve Health

Orgasms don’t just feel nice, they literally improve your health! In quite a number of ways, in fact.

For example, orgasms…

• Improve mental health, relieving symptoms of depression, anxiety, and stress
• Improve sleep
• Relieve pain, including headaches and menstrual cramps
• Improve your immune system
• Lower the risk of cardiovascular disease

…and more!

Needless to say, the healthier a woman is, the more likely she is to get pregnant. The body tends to prioritize your immediate health over reproduction, and even something like being stressed can harm fertility chances.

If orgasming is literally good for your health, there is no reason for everyone not to be enjoying them regularly!

4. They Encourage Women To Have Sex Longer

This one makes a lot of sense, when you really stop to think about it.

Humans are actually not good at getting pregnant. According to research I did in a past article, the chance of getting pregnant from any individual sex session is only 1 in 20 if she’s under 30, dropping down to 1 in 60 by the time she’s 40 years old.

Therefore, we usually need to have sex quite a few times before we’re successful! Even if you have sex on your most fertile days of your cycle, your chances are only about 25%. Actively trying for a baby can take up to a year before it’s considered abnormal.

Like men, women too want that big climax that they’re building towards.

The fact that women tend to take longer to orgasm with penis-in-vagina sex means that she’s likely to remain interested long enough for you to ejaculate inside of her.

Additionally, the fact that orgasms are so intense and enjoyable means that she’s likely to want sex more frequently than if she never orgasmed at all.

Let’s be honest – if sex wasn’t pleasurable, how often would you want to do it?

There’s another factor in this though, and that’s that orgasming also means you’re also having sex with the right person.

As a girl, someone who is able to make you orgasm is probably someone that is physically attractive, and you’re comfortable enough with to reach your climax. They are physically strong and emotionally involved enough to get you there. Remember, we want the best genes possible for our kids, so this might have been one factor in how we selected potential mates.

5. There Is No Reason

Finally, the last theory is that there isn’t any reason to it at all.

In the womb, very early development doesn’t differ that much between males and females. You can kind of think of it as that Y chromosome that separates women from men, it takes a while to kick in.

This is why for example, men have nipples despite never having any need to breastfeed.

It may also be the reason why women have a clitoris. It takes a while for the genitalia to begin developing, as we all start out as female in the womb. Later on, you only change to male if certain hormones are present.

A penis in some ways, grew from what was supposed to be a clit. The seam in the center of your testicles is also present underneath a woman’s vagina. In fact, a bunch of our reproductive organs are just the same parts rearranged in different ways.

Anyway, it’s possible the female orgasm was just leftover after our genitals were reworked, and serves no evolutionary purpose whatsoever.

Even if that’s the case, I’m sure glad we got them anyway!

Conclusion

It’s not entirely known whether orgasming has any direct benefits to our evolution, or our fertility chances.

However, considering that they improve overall health, personally, to me that is enough to decide that they probably benefit us – even if just a little bit.

Therefore, make sure you and your partner are orgasming regularly! You officially have my permission to stop whatever you’re stressing about and to go give each other a good time.

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Wishing you the best,

~ Lexi