When it comes to sex, there’s no shortage of taboo topics that are whispered about in hushed voices or behind closed doors. One of those topics, of course, is anal sex – and more specifically, why women would choose to engage in it at all. The topic is often met with confusion, misunderstandings, and even judgment from those who don’t understand why women would want to “let a man do that” to them.

But here’s the thing: anal sex isn’t inherently painful or degrading, nor is it something that only “certain” women enjoy. In fact, according to one study, 94% of women who had anal sex reported having orgasms during it, and another survey by BadGirlsBible showed that 4.1% of women actually preferred anal sex over vaginal sex.

So, what’s the appeal? And why do so many women find pleasure in something that society often portrays as something only men should enjoy?

In this article, we’ll explore the physical, emotional, and mental reasons women enjoy anal sex, and how to make sure they have a great time when doing so.

The Physical Sensations Of Anal Sex

First and foremost, women engage in anal sex for the same reason as any other sexual act: pleasure. And contrary to popular belief, anal sex can be pleasurable for women when done correctly.

Both women and men have an abundance of nerve endings in and around their anus, which can provide a whole new world of pleasure when stimulated correctly. In fact, the anus is packed with more nerve endings per square inch than any other part of the body (aside from the clitoris and penis). This means that when done right, anal sex can lead to some incredibly intense orgasms, and a sensation that is still quite enjoyable – even if it isn’t seen to be as pleasurable as vaginal sex.

The key word here is “when done right.” A common misconception about anal sex is that it’s supposed to be painful and uncomfortable, especially for women. In reality, this shouldn’t be the case.

The first time you do anything sexually, it can feel uncomfortable or even slightly painful. This includes vaginal sex when you’re inexperienced, or even trying a new position for the first time. With patience, communication, and practice, anal sex can become pleasurable and even preferable for some women.

The Mental Side Of Anal Sex

Even more of a factor for me personally isn’t the physical pleasure, but the mental feeling I experience when I’ve engaged in anal sex in the past.

Anal sex can be an intense way to explore power dynamics. For some women, there’s an element of surrender and submission that comes with anal sex. It’s often seen as a more ‘taboo’ form of sex, so engaging in it can create a heightened sense of intimacy and vulnerability.

The act of allowing someone to penetrate this intimate area can make women feel incredibly vulnerable, which can be a turn-on for some. And for others, the feeling of being ‘filled up’ in this new, intense way can be a huge turn-on in itself.

It feels naughty, it feels raw, it feels slutty. It’s like I’m truly offering my entire self, like I’m yours to enjoy.

In addition to exploring power dynamics, some women feel more connected and intimate with their partners during anal sex.

In fact, many women don’t offer anal sex as freely as they would traditional vaginal sex. Instead, it’s saved for people they really like, or people that they feel more comfortable with. Considering the taboo nature of it and the fact that it requires even more preparation and trust, this makes sense. And since it’s done less frequently, the act can feel more intimate and special to them as well.

However, It Has To Be Done Right

Unlike vaginal sex, where the vagina naturally lubricates itself for penetration, the anus doesn’t naturally lubricate in the same way. Therefore, anal sex requires a lot more preparation than other types of penetrative sex. Otherwise, it WILL hurt, and everyone is going to have a bad time.

First things first, it’s extremely important to understand that porn is not at all a good representation of what anal is like.

Pornstars are used to having lots of anal, stretch extensively, and use ungodly amounts of lube. Never think you can ram an ass the same way you would a pussy, as this can be extremely painful.

Instead, ensure that she’s fully prepared beforehand – both mentally and physically. Follow the tips I lay out in this article to keep things clean, and use lots of lube. Silicone or oil-based lube can be great for longer anal sessions, as it doesn’t need to be reapplied as often as water-based lube.

Then, once you’re inside, go very slow. Communicate throughout the process, and only pick up the pace when you’ve been given the OK to do so.

If you want to be able to do anal again, it’s important that you make it as enjoyable as possible for her.

Conclusion

As we’ve covered, anal actually can be quite enjoyable for women, and isn’t just something that men like.

Between the physical sensation and the headspace women are put in when they’re getting fucked in the ass, it can be a very fun way to mix things up, and keep things spicy in the bedroom.

However, if it’s done carelessly, it can cause a lot of pain – even if she’s done it before. So, make sure that you’re careful, and take her needs into consideration.

Do that, and you’re both in for a good time!

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Otherwise, have fun with your buttfucking!

~ Lexi

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The anus – and more importantly the prostate, located inside of the rectum, are two of the most pleasurable places on or in a man’s body. Yet, many people wouldn’t dare entertain the idea of self-pleasure – or pleasure from someone else, anywhere near their butt. The fear is that only gay men engage in butt stuff, and doing anything sexual there – even if it ends up pleasurable, is either a ‘gay act’, or can make you turn gay over time.

There are some logical points behind this – sexual preferences and even your sexual orientation can morph or evolve over time. But does anal play have anything to do with sexual orientation?

In this article, I’ll cover everything you need to know!

What Do We Mean By Anal Play?

So just to get it out of the way, let’s look into some examples of what I mean by anal play. If you haven’t thought about it before, there are a whole lot of sexual acts that one can enjoy that involve the butt.

For example:

• Ass licking (fun fact – the first time I ever made a guy moan was by licking his ass.)
• Anal fingering, which I’m told feels amazing while cumming or getting a blowjob. It certainly feels great when I cum!
• Anal sex, both giving and receiving in the form of pegging.
• Usage of anal toys, such as butt plugs, vibrators, and so on.
• Even erotic massage, having your glutes massaged can be quite pleasurable and quite erotic.

There are plenty of erogenous zones involving the butt, both inside and outside, and integrating some of these acts into your sex life can really spice things up, introducing you to pleasure you’ve never known possible.

The prostate in particular is known to be insanely pleasurable to stimulate, giving it the nickname of the ‘Male G-Spot’ for a reason.

Prostate orgasms are said to be insanely pleasurable beyond anything you can get through traditional masturbation or sex. They are more intense, can last longer, and involve your whole body, rather than being localized to just your penis.

From people that have experienced them, they would consider prostate orgasms a 10/10, where as a regular orgasm would be considered a 2/10 in comparison. Prostate orgasms do not have the refractory period that traditional orgasms do, meaning you can have them over and over again for hours without losing your arousal levels.

I feel very sorry for anybody that finds the idea of prostate orgasms appealing, but forbade themselves from trying due to fear or stigma.

So, Can Anal Play Make You Gay?

I’m happy to share that anal play in itself has absolutely no effect on whether you are straight or gay. It will not magically make you attracted to men, or cause you to want men to do anything to you or your body.

People of all genders and sexual orientations enjoy anal play, because again, these areas of the body are pleasurable. There are so many nerve endings on the ass and anus, even before you get to the prostate.

Cis men enjoy anal play. Cis women enjoy anal play. Trans men enjoy anal play, as do trans women. Straight, gay, bisexual, pansexual, everyone of all genders and sexual orientations enjoy the pleasures that our bodies have to offer.

What’s important is that you take anal play at face value, and view it objectively. You are simply stimulating nerve endings. Most straight people, even if they were getting pegged or using a penis-shaped dildo on themselves, would not be thinking of a man fucking them in the ass while it’s happening. They are simply doing what feels good.

The stigma surrounding anal play does more harm than good. If you start questioning your sexual identity, you will start seeking out evidence that will support your theory. If you believe that you might be bisexual, you’ll start looking for reasons this might be true. When I’ve worked with coaching clients, I’ve had people admit that they’ve been turned on by feminine-looking asses that they later found out were men, or enjoy watching cumshots in porn videos. This can lead to serious emotional insecurity, especially if you live in an area where homosexuality isn’t as accepted.

Of course, we now KNOW that anal play has nothing to do with being gay. However, I can empathize with the fears and anxiety that develops with enjoying it – which again, has nothing to do with the act itself, and everything to do with society’s misguided views.

(And hey, with articles like this one, I’m trying to correct that!)

What CAN Lead To Shifts In Sexual Identity

Believe it or not, there ARE things that can lead to shifts in sexual identity over time. And while anal play isn’t one of them, it can cause identity issues when combined with other actions or behaviors.

Take this example, that I see a lot with people that have porn addictions.

Porn itself is heavily fueled by dopamine – the chemical in your brain that’s tied to anticipating rewards. When you watch porn, your dopamine receptors think you’ve hit the jackpot, and hundreds of women want to mate with you. Score, right?

The only problem is, when people are repeatedly exposed to the same thing, dopamine does not act as intensely as it did the first time. This is why we eventually get bored with the things that used to excite us. It’s not new or novel anymore.

Porn can be problematic because it offers constant novelty – there are always new videos to watch, new concepts to explore. Yet over time, even vanilla porn can become boring.

Some people eventually find themselves drawn to trans, ‘femboy’ or even straight out gay porn. There’s nothing wrong with this, of course.

However, if you know how fetishes develop, it’s largely a product of reinforcement. You watch something catered to a fetish, which excites you sexually. Dopamine is released – your brain is receiving a pleasurable reward. You orgasm, which rewires your brain to crave the trigger for the reward – i.e the fetish, even more. Over time, it becomes more and more of what makes up your sexual preference.

If you watch gay porn for example and cum to it over and over again, you’re going to be aroused and seek it out even if you have no attraction to actual men in real life.

This does not mean that you’re gay. While sexual orientation isn’t necessarily fixed and sexual preferences can evolve or change over time, most cases of porn-induced fetishes disappear or lose strength as you stop engaging or thinking about them. When it comes to the brain, this is one area where ‘use it or lose it’ holds true.

Closing Thoughts

I don’t blame people for wondering whether or not anal play is gay. Sex education in many areas of the world is laughable at best, and although I believe it’s wrong to discriminate against anyone due to sexual orientation, a lot of the world doesn’t feel the same way. It’s wrong, but seeing yourself as gay can have huge emotional effects, and many people have shied away from anal play because of it.

Thankfully, playing with your butt is no more gay than stroking your own penis. A whole new world of pleasure is available to you once you get your ass involved, and I’d hate for you to miss out.

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Anyway, wishing you the best, and well, have fun with your butt!

~ Lexi

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Anal sex is a lot of fun, but it doesn’t come without its risks. And without putting it more eloquently, when you take a trip to poop’s house, you shouldn’t be surprised if poop shows up.

Part of making anal sex comfortable is taking steps to avoid any dirty surprises. This not only makes it more fun for everyone, but it can get rid of unwanted anxiety that can prevent you from enjoying the experience.

So, whether you’re planning anal sex with a partner or you’ll be self-pleasuring with a toy, this article will share all the tips you need to know to prevent anal play from getting dirty.

1. Understand Your Physical Anatomy

A lot of your fears surrounding anal can be calmed if you just understand the physical anatomy of your body. Most importantly, the difference between your colon and your rectum.

Your colon – aka your large intestine, is what ends up storing your waste after digestion happens in the small intestine. At any given time, there are typically 5 to 25 pounds held inside there. Lovely picture, right?

Anyway, here’s something interesting. Anal sex does not happen in the colon, it happens in the rectum.

The rectum is a small chamber about 6 inches long. It holds poop before you have a bowel movement.

So, you have two sphincters. Your anus, which you can control to hold things in, and another internal sphincter that prevents fecal matter from entering the rectum until it’s the proper time. This one operates completely automatically and you don’t feel it. When poop enters your rectum, you get the urge to go.

Here’s what’s important to know. After you do go to the bathroom, the rectum, for the most part, is clear. The rectum is designed to expel pretty much everything inside, and produces mucus (mostly to protect its lining) that also helps get any residual fecal matter out. Therefore, for best results, you should wait 30 minutes to an hour after having a bowel movement to start anal play.

Anyhow, you only have to worry about directly hitting poop right before you go to the bathroom. If you have the urge to go, hold off. Otherwise, most of the time, you have nothing to worry about!

2. Have A Bowel Movement At Least An Hour Before

Just to quickly reiterate, the riskiest time to stick things in someone’s ass – be it a penis, a toy, or something else entirely, is right before they need to go to the bathroom.

Some people know around the time they might expect to need to go, and being regular with your bathroom habits can help predict this.

Again, poop only enters the rectum right before you actually need to go. All other times of the day, you should be clear. This assumes you don’t have any gastrointestinal issues like IBS.

Ideally, you’ll wait 30-60 minutes minutes after having a bowel movement, to minimize the amount of fecal matter that may get transferred. Some people prefer to wait as long as 2 hours.

3. Clean Your Anus

Just like you want the inside of your ass to be clean, it’s also important that the outside is clean as well.

Sex is less enjoyable when your partner’s anus is visibly dirty, or smells bad. This can happen completely by accident, and is therefore something you should be conscious of and pay attention to.

The quickest thing to do is to use baby wipes as a final tool after you’re done using toilet paper. But, remember that even wipes marketed as flushable shouldn’t be flushed. Additionally, baby wipes can strip away the natural oils on your anus and make it more prone to tearing, or other injuries.

This is why in an ideal scenario, you’ll use either a bidet – which a lot of people should be using anyway in my opinion, or you’ll take a shower and clean it there.

You should be able to physically see or smell when your anus is clean.

4. Consider Anal Douching

If you want to be extra careful, you can consider anal douching.

This can help get any residual fecal matter out of your rectum, and help you show yourself beforehand that you’re clean. It isn’t strictly necessary, but it can be worth it for the peace of mind alone.

That being said, not everyone finds it comfortable, so you shouldn’t do it if it will ruin the mood for you.

Most sex toy sites sell anal douche bulbs that work pretty simply. Fill it up with warm (but not hot) water, insert it into your anus, and squeeze. Your rectum will fill with water, and then you expel it into the toilet.

You can also use an enema bag or shower hose. Each have their own pros and cons. For simple cleaning, I recommend an anal douche bulb out of the three.

However, one device I stumbled upon recently that works even better is the KYO Shower (US Link | Europe Link)

This was originally designed for cleaning lube and bodily fluids from onaholes. However, I found it worked better than traditional anal douching methods because:

1. The nozzle is designed to spray water on all sides, meaning it directly cleans the walls of your rectum.
2. It’s pump operated, so you have better control over how much water you spray up there.
3. The bottle is clear and can sit on the ground next to you, so you can see how much water you’ve used.

If you use too much water, it can enter your colon, lead to cramping, and additional bowel movements. Therefore, it must be avoided as it will make your cleaning process much more lengthy and annoying.

To reiterate – you want to clean your rectum, without water getting into your colon. Unfortunately, this can take some practice – but you probably need less water than you think.

5. Diet

If you know that you’re going to be having anal sex soon, there are some changes you can make to your diet that may make the process easier for you. After all, your stool is a reflection of your digestive system but just as importantly, the food that goes into it.

If you are regular and know your schedule well, it may not be worth changing anything, as it can make it more unpredictable. A consistent diet can help you time your bowel movements, and predict what time of day you’ll need to go. Still, there are a few things worth considering.

First, consider increasing your fiber intake in the days leading up to anal sex. This will help make your stool more firm, and come out of you easier without any residual fecal matter sticking to the walls of your rectum.

Next, consider eating a bit less in the hours leading up to your anal play. Eating, as you might imagine, stimulates your digestive system. This may increase the likelihood that you’ll need to use the bathroom shortly.

Finally, avoid things that you already know make you need to go to the bathroom. This can be anything from food intolerances to substances like caffeine. Everybody’s body is unique, so only you know which of these apply to you.

Remember, while diet can help, it usually isn’t necessary if you follow the other tips mentioned already.

6. Accept That Eventually, It’ll Be Inevitable

Unfortunately, no matter what you do, you need to accept that accidents are always a possibility. And if you have anal sex enough, eventually it’s going to happen.

It won’t be pleasant for anyone, but you’ll probably find that it’s not as big of a deal as you might have feared.

Wipe off and clean yourself, and you’ll be good as new.

Lots of men worry about potential infections, but UTIs are much less common in men due to their much longer urethra – bacteria have to travel a much greater distance to reach the bladder.

Even peeing after sex isn’t really necessary, as infections really are that rare. Though, it should be said that you should never go from anal to vaginal sex without cleaning or changing condoms, even if everything appears clean.

Closing Thoughts

If you follow the advice laid out in this article, you’ll never really have anything to worry about.

Even though most of the time you’ll come out clean, it’s still a good idea to clean yourself well after you’re done. Just because there isn’t visible fecal matter doesn’t mean that it’s not there on a microscopic level. So, wash yourself or your toys with anti-bacterial soap and warm water to be safe.

I understand this is a shitty topic to talk about, but I’m here to bring you stuff that will help you – even when it’s a little uncomfortable to listen to.

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Thanks for reading, and have fun!

~ Lexi

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