In fact, one of my most popular audios – ‘Perving On Public Ass’, was written by me as a way to express many of my own thoughts. I really get excited when a nice ass appears before me, and I’m lucky to have one I think is pretty nice myself.

The reality is, we are all hardwired to look at attractive people. Our eyes are naturally guided towards indicators of fertility and beauty, one of which is those two globes on the backsides of our bodies. Whether you like it or not, people are going to look at your butt. And well, it happens more with women than with men – part due to human nature, part due to the way us women dress.

So, you may be wondering – how perceptive are women, really? Do they actually know when you’re looking at their ass, and how does it make them feel when you do so? Let’s dive in! To the article, I mean.

Do Girls Know When Men Look At Their Butts?

The reality is, most women know that men look at their butts.

In fact, young girls become aware that their butts are seen as sexual as early as the time they enter puberty. And thanks to the internet and how heavily asses are praised in our media, girls know that people show an interest in each other’s butts well before then.

One of my friends’ kids is 11 years old. She has told me stories about how uncomfortable it made her to catch a man staring at her butt, while also telling me she worries whether or not it’s nice enough. Such is the world we live in. If she didn’t know that people put so much of a woman’s value on the way her butt looks, neither of these situations would have crossed her mind.

I find it incredibly sad that girls that are still in elementary school worry about such things. Anyhow, if young girls are aware that people look, then you can bet older women are too.

In fact, it doesn’t even matter what we’re wearing. We could be wearing a hospital gown or your grandma’s favorite pants and men are still going to glance. I’m not saying this as an attack against men. It’s just human nature.

Women tend to place a lot of emphasis on how we’re perceived, especially how we look. Girls are competitive, and appearance is not only something we attack each other for, but it’s how a lot of men determine whether or not we’re even worth talking to. Again, I’m not saying this as an attack. But you can bet we put thought into how our clothes match, the aesthetic we want to give off, and yes, how our clothes make different areas of our bodies look.

We also know that the more sexually appealing our outfits are, the more likely it is that people will look.

We know when people go out of their way to catch more glimpses of our ass. How you move to give yourself a better angle. How when your phone is pointing in our direction, there’s a chance you’re recording (which isn’t cool, by the way.)

We know this, because it’s happened to us hundreds or thousands of times before, with some men being more forward than others.

Does It Make Them Uncomfortable?

Context and your behavior is key when it comes to making a woman uncomfortable. And generally speaking, you should always err on the side of caution. Enjoy the view without making it known, and without breaking the law. As quickly as possible, shift your gaze elsewhere.

Let’s share two examples to help illustrate this.

Picture this scenario. It’s dark outside, and a woman is walking alone down the street, with only the occasional street light to show that she’s there. The street is full of alleys, and the police are known to avoid dealing with calls in that neighborhood because there are too many false reports. Oh yeah, and the woman was raped around this street this time last year. The rapist tried to kill her to avoid her telling the police, but he failed. Through no fault of your own, you happen to walk out of one of the alleys and end up no more than 20 feet behind her.

In another scenario, let’s say you spot a woman with a nice ass at a shopping mall. She’s in a group with her friends, and at any given time there are dozens of people around. One of her friends’ boyfriends is there with her. He’s a bodybuilder and she knows he carries a gun. Oh yeah, and there are cameras covering every inch of the mall.

Two wildly different scenarios, and two very different levels of comfort for the same thing.

In the first scenario, your very presence may trigger fear for her survival. It’s not fair to you – you know you’re a good person, but this reaction is completely natural and normal. The same way you’d, reasonably, trigger a fight-or-flight response if a tiger growled outside your shelter thousands of years ago.

In the second scenario, there is no threat to her safety or security. Even if you were to approach her or try flirting with her, she would feel comfortable declining your advances, knowing that her friends would back her up. She went somewhere expecting to have her body seen by strangers.

Unfortunately, there is no way to know how somebody will feel, which is why it’s so important to be respectful. Most women don’t care if you are reasonable about peeking. Some women will feel objectified, like a piece of meat. Others will relish in it, and even go out of their way to show off and tease men. This can flipflop at any time, depending on her mood, how she’s feeling about herself, or life events that have recently happened to her.

Why Do Girls Wear Such Revealing Clothing, Then?

If some women get offended or upset when people give them sexual attention, then what sense does it make to wear those kinds of clothes in the first place, right?

This is kind of a weird issue to address. Because on one hand, everyone should be free to wear whatever they want, without having to be sexually harassed by other people. On the other hand, it’s unreasonable to expect guys NOT to at least glance at it when a nice ass captures their attention. Just like your mouth waters when you see a juicy steak, your eyes will be drawn to a girl with a nice caboose. What makes the difference is whether or not your rational brain takes over and avoids pushing it too far.

It’s important to remember that there are lots of reasons that girls wear formfitting or revealing clothes, such as yoga pants or leggings.

It could be that she wants to show off, but only for one particular guy that she’s crushing on. It could be that she recently went through a break up, and wants SOME sexual attention to see that men are still interested in her, but doesn’t want anything beyond validation. It could be that they simply make her feel sexy and give her increased confidence.

You shouldn’t assume, even if someone is wearing a thong bikini and nipple pasties, that it’s alright to make sexual advances towards her. While you cannot be blamed for glancing – or even repeatedly taking peeks to masturbate to later, it crosses the line when you invade her sense of security, comfort, or privacy.

Closing Thoughts

Looking at a nice ass isn’t something to feel bad about. It happens automatically, the same way your body craves food when you’re hungry, to find warmth when you’re cold, sleep when you’re tired, and avoid walking into traffic. It’s biologically driven, and it’ll happen even when you’re not trying.

However, what makes humans special is that we have a conscious. We do not have to act on our impulses. We can enjoy the view, without advancing further and making the woman uncomfortable.

Women may not know each individual time you look at their butt, but they do know that men look. Don’t make it weird, and you probably have nothing to worry about.

Have any other questions? Ask them below, and I’ll be happy to help!

~ Lexi

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Perhaps now more than ever, butts have become mainstream. From our music videos, to our adult media, to our fashion choices, the butt is being celebrated and shown off more than ever before.

But have you ever stopped to wonder why butts excite us so much in the first place? What is it about this part of the body that excites men – and women so much?

In this article I’ll be breaking down the three different sort of ‘groups’ of reasons, which should paint a pretty clear picture. I’ll also discuss how this differs for girls, too.

1. Evolutionary Reasons

It turns out, our attraction to people’s backsides goes all the way back to our caveman days.

Actually, the way our brains work really hasn’t changed all that much from thousands of years ago. And this is especially true for our base instincts, like you know, trying to procreate. Carrying on the existence of the species is one of the most important roles all animals have, and our human brains are no different.

So, since the world used to be a much more dangerous place, we’d seek out mates that we thought had the best chance of surviving pregnancy and producing healthy offspring. One of the indicators that might happen?

A woman’s butt.

Narrow hips and a wide waist immediately communicate to your brain that the lady you’re looking at isn’t already pregnant. A smooth, round butt indicates she’s probably young, fertile, and capable of having children. And an ass of ample size indicates she probably has enough fat reserves to not only survive the pregnancy, but be able to feed your future child, as breast milk contains a lot of fat.

Speaking of breasts, part of the reason people find cleavage attractive is because it reminds them of a woman’s butt, even if just on a subconscious level.

So, our attraction to ass is hard-rooted in science! You can’t really blame yourself for liking them, now can you? Liking butts is part of what makes us human.

Of course, there are other reasons as well, so let’s keep going.

2. Cultural Reasons

Did you know that some areas of the world are more obsessed with ass than others?

In fact, Pornhub released a study showing which areas of the world searched for videos focused on butts, vs. those focused on boobs. Countries like the United States, Mexico, most of South America and Africa preferred butts. Where as Europe, Asia and Australia tended to prefer boobs.

This could explain my frustration why so many ecchi animes – produced in Japan, focus so heavily on the boobs and almost never give any love to the butt. I love me some nice titties, but I sure do wish the ass would get some action as well.

Anyway, the way our brains work isn’t all that different across the world. Therefore, it’s clear that our culture helps shape and reinforce our attraction to different body parts.

As much as we like to think that we’re unique, our preferences are often a product of conditioning.

Every time we are shown something in a positive light – especially something that calls out to our brains on a deep and primal level, the more we grow to like and crave it. When a girl walks by in leggings that show off her ass nicely, or you see an ass in a music video, or you watch a porn video where the ass is shown, your brain gets a squirt of dopamine. You get excited. Your brain sees a potential mate in front of you. Now it’s going to be seeking it out even more, seeking out that next squirt of dopamine.

Even for cavemen, they often mounted from behind. So, what did they see while they were having sex, and enjoying all that pleasure? A woman’s ass.

Dopamine is often called the ‘molecule of more’, because it creates a feedback loop. To showcase this, let’s look at how fetishes sometimes develop or escalate. Chances are, you’re into some things sexually that you wouldn’t have thought of before. You probably stumbled upon it, it excited you, so you sought it out more, until it built and built and built so much that it now feels like a big part of your sexuality.

This is a big problem with porn addicts, who used to feel downright repulsed by the things that now excite them the most.

Anyway, companies, celebrities and influencers have caught onto the fact that hey – butts get you to pay attention. If we throw a little sexual undertone in our ad, you’re more likely to watch it. If a piece of clothing draws attention to a woman’s ass and makes her feel more desired, she’s more likely to buy it.

When I do brainwashing sessions on the phone, there’s a lot of psychology that goes into it, that actually makes them work. But companies act the same way, just at a much larger scale.

This is why butts are ‘in’ right now, but weren’t all the rage in the past. Nothing changed, except for our culture – and our access to porn, I suppose.

3. The Taboo Factor

Finally, there’s the taboo factor.

A woman’s butt, location wise, is quite close to her vagina. The butt and the anus can excite you simply due to its proximity to her hole that actually designed for fucking.

According to Wikipedia, the fact that the butt is used for well, going to the bathroom, also contributes to its taboo excitement. But part of that I believe ties into my next point, which is that butts are private – or at least, they’re supposed to be.

We don’t show off our bare butts to everyone because they’re sexual and supposed to be private. However, by keeping them private, it also causes our brains to sexualize them further. Seeing a woman’s ass becomes a reward, something to chase, which again, is fueled by dopamine.

If we study the behavior of nudists or doctors, we see that they don’t have the same automatic response to seeing a naked butt, even if they’d otherwise be quite attracted to the owner of it.

We live in a world now where we are teased by asses everywhere, but at least in the real world, we don’t actually see the full thing all that much.

Perhaps if we saw a woman’s butt as frequently as we saw her elbows or her eyeballs, they wouldn’t hold quite the same level of excitement!

So, Why Do Women Also Enjoy Guy Butts?

If so much of our attraction to asses has to do with fertility and reproduction – or even our culture, then why are women turned on by guys’ butts too?

This comes down to biology as well, though for different reasons.

Women tend to look at men more holistically. Instead of isolating their attraction to just the butt, they look at the butt in the context of the entire person. A nice butt may not be something they’re attracted to on its own, but it can amplify the attraction to that man.

A nice butt shows that the men are likely to be in shape, capable of hunting and protecting both the woman as well as any potential children. Men tend to store fat more in their abdominal area where as women are more likely to store it in their butt and thighs, which is why nice asses seem harder to come by on men (though men can develop bubble butts too, of course.)

Butts also affect the way that we walk, or move. Men walk differently to women – there is more movement in the shoulders, and less in the waist. Paying attention to a man’s butt – even of a subconscious level, can tell a woman in microseconds whether someone is a man, and whether he’s likely to be masculine.

Closing Thoughts

If you’ve been following me for long at all, you already know that I’m pretty obsessed with butts myself. I make a lot of butt-themed audio porn, my house is full of butt-themed decor, and I just love looking at them every chance I get. I feel thankful every day that I turned out to be bisexual.

Anyhow, if you’re like me, hopefully it feels a lot better to understand why we love butts so much. Yes, we all have our individual preferences, but there are a lot of underlying reasons for them as well!

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Thanks for reading, and have a wonderful day!

~ Lexi

Lewd Lexi

Lewd Lexi is a professional adult voice actress, phone sex operator, and sexuality educator. Here on LewdLexi.com, she shares not only her newest releases and projects, but works to provide resources to give everyone a better sex life!

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