Sexual performance is a topic that carries significant psychological weight for many people, particularly men. Concerns about duration – whether real or perceived – can create anxiety, impact self-esteem, and even strain relationships. But how long does sex actually last for most couples? And what can you do if you feel like you’re finishing too quickly?

Let’s dive into the numbers, the science, the awkward real-life moments, and, of course, how to last longer – because nobody wants their romantic finale to feel like a Netflix show canceled after one season.

What Does the Research Say About Average Sex Duration?

The 5.4-Minute Benchmark

A well-known study analyzed data from 500 couples across multiple countries and found that the average duration of penetrative sex was 5.4 minutes. This number has been widely cited, but it’s important to note that “average” doesn’t mean “ideal” – it simply reflects what most people experience.

Interestingly, studies have found that:

• Most couples (about 70%) lasted between 3 and 7 minutes.
• Only a small percentage (less than 10%) went beyond 10 minutes.
• A tiny fraction (around 1%) lasted longer than 20 minutes.

This suggests that while pop culture (and pornography) often glorifies marathon sessions, the reality for most people is far more modest. So if you fall into that 3 and 7 minute category, it’s nothing to feel bad about – you’re actually quite normal!

Cultural and Individual Variations

Sexual norms vary across cultures, and so does duration. Some research suggests that in countries where sex is viewed more as a leisurely activity rather than a performance-driven act, couples tend to spend more time on foreplay and less on penetration.

A cross-cultural study comparing sexual habits in different societies found that:

• In some European countries, couples reported longer sessions, but with more emphasis on extended foreplay.
• In contrast, in more performance-focused cultures, men often reported higher anxiety about duration, which paradoxically led to shorter encounters due to stress.

This highlights an important point: Duration alone is not the best measure of sexual satisfaction.

Why Do Some Men Finish Quickly? The Science of Premature Ejaculation

Premature ejaculation (PE) is one of the most common sexual complaints among men, affecting an estimated 20–30% at some point in their lives. But what causes it?

Biological Factors

1. Evolutionary Wiring – Some researchers argue that rapid ejaculation may have been advantageous in early human history, reducing vulnerability during mating. The quicker you can get it done, the safer you’d be!
2. Neurochemical Sensitivity – Men with premature ejaculation often have heightened sensitivity in dopamine pathways, which regulate pleasure and reward.
3. Pelvic Floor Dysfunction – Weak or overly tense pelvic muscles can contribute to poor ejaculatory control.

Psychological Factors

1. Performance Anxiety – Worrying about duration can create a self-fulfilling prophecy.
2. Conditioning from Masturbation Habits – If a man frequently masturbates quickly (e.g., due to time constraints or habit), his body may become accustomed to rapid climax. This is why trying to cum too quickly, too frequently, can hurt your stamina in the longer-term!
3. Relationship Stress – Tension, unresolved conflicts, or lack of emotional intimacy can exacerbate PE.

The Myth of the “Too-Sensitive” Penis

A common misconception is that PE is purely a physical issue – that some men are just “too sensitive.” While penile hypersensitivity can play a role, studies show that psychological factors are often more influential.

For example, a study found that men who underwent cognitive behavioral therapy (CBT) for PE saw greater improvements than those who relied solely on numbing creams or medications. This suggests that mental reframing is just as important as physical techniques – and it’s exciting to know that it CAN be improved in most cases!

How to Last Longer: Evidence-Based Strategies

1. The Start-Stop Technique (A Classic but Effective Method)

Developed by sex therapists in the 1950s, this method involves:

• Stimulating yourself or being stimulated by a partner until you feel close to climax.
• Pausing completely for 15–30 seconds to let arousal subside.
• Resuming stimulation, repeating the cycle.

In other words, edging. Something that’s usually quite enjoyable, anyway!

It works because it trains the body to recognize and control the point of no return. Over time, men who practice this can often delay ejaculation significantly.

2. Pelvic Floor Training (Kegels Aren’t Just for Women!)

Strengthening the pelvic floor muscles helps with ejaculatory control. A study published in the National Library of Medicine found that men who did 12 weeks of pelvic floor exercises saw a 50% increase in endurance.

How to do it:

• Identify the muscles by stopping urination midstream.
• Contract and hold for 5 seconds, then relax.
• Repeat 10–15 times per session, 3 times daily.

3. Mindfulness

Instead of fixating on performance, mindfulness techniques encourage staying present in the moment.

One study found that mindfulness-based sex therapy helped men last longer by reducing anxiety and increasing body awareness.

Practical application:

• Focus on breathing deeply during sex.
• Pay attention to sensations rather than worrying about the clock.
• Engage in non-goal-oriented touching (e.g., massages, slow foreplay). This allows you to appreciate the process, and take focus / pressure off the destination, or your performance.

4. The “Second Round” Approach

Many men find that their refractory period (the recovery time after orgasm) shortens with practice. I also have an entire article dedicated to shortening your refractory period, which you can read by clicking here.

Anyway, by intentionally having a first orgasm earlier in the session (through masturbation or quick sex), the second round often lasts much longer.

You two may begin with mutual stimulation like masturbation or oral sex, allowing the man to reach climax first. Following this initial release, you could then transition into more intimate connection through cuddling or extended foreplay while his body recovers from the first orgasm.

When his arousal and stamina have replenished (typically after 10-30 minutes for most men), you two can then move to penetrative sex, which often lasts significantly longer thanks to the refractory period’s natural dampening effect – making the 2nd ejaculation take longer.

5. Communication And Partner Involvement

One of the most overlooked aspects of lasting longer is partner collaboration. Many women report that they don’t actually want prolonged penetration – they want more attention on foreplay, clitoral stimulation, and emotional connection.

One survey found that only 18% of women orgasm from penetration alone, while over 70% preferred extended foreplay. This means that lasting longer doesn’t always mean lasting longer during intercourse – it might mean shifting focus to other forms of pleasure.

Closing Thoughts

While many men worry about how long they last, the reality is that most sex is relatively brief – and that’s perfectly normal. Instead of obsessing over minutes and comparing yourself to other partners she’s had, focus on:

• Quality over quantity (connection, pleasure, mutual satisfaction).
• Communication (asking your partner what they enjoy).
• Technique (learning to control arousal rather than fighting biology).

The best sexual experiences aren’t measured by a stopwatch. They’re measured by mutual enjoyment, intimacy, and the ability to understand and pleasure each other on a deeper level.

Have any other questions? Ask them below!

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Thanks for reading, and have a wonderful day!

~ Lexi

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First dates can be nerve-wracking. Do you dress fancy? Keep it casual? And most importantly, what do you do that’s not the same-old “dinner and a movie” routine? The goal of a first date is to create a memorable experience—something that sparks conversation and sets the stage for a connection.

When it comes to first dates, the default options of dinner and a movie have been so overused that they’ve become clichés. Don’t get me wrong, there’s nothing inherently wrong with these choices—they can be romantic and provide a comfortable setting to get to know someone. However, they can also feel a bit too predictable and might not always spark the kind of memorable, engaging experience you’re looking for.

If you want to stand out, show your creativity, and maybe even have a little fun, it’s time to shake things up. Here are 12 fantastic first date ideas that go beyond the usual dinner and movie routine. These activities are designed to help you and your date connect on a deeper level, share some laughs, and create lasting memories.

So First Of All, What Makes a Good First Date?

A great first date isn’t about flashy gestures or spending a fortune – it’s about creating a connection. Here are a few key elements that can turn a good date into a fantastic one:

• Opportunity To Talk: The best dates allow you to have meaningful (or at least fun!) conversations. Activities that are too loud, overly structured, or isolating can make it harder to connect.
• Unique And Memorable: Doing something out of the ordinary helps the date stand out. It doesn’t have to be extravagant – even small, creative touches can make the experience unforgettable.
• Low Pressure: First dates can be nerve-wracking, so choose activities that feel relaxed and casual. This helps both of you open up and enjoy the moment.
• Shared Experience: Whether you’re learning something new or laughing over a silly game, shared experiences build rapport and give you something to bond over.
• Shows Thoughtfulness: Picking an activity that aligns with your date’s interests (or something you’ve both expressed curiosity about) demonstrates that you’re paying attention and genuinely interested.

Keep these principles in mind as you plan your date, and you’ll set the stage for a great time – even if sparks don’t fly romantically at first.

12 First Date Ideas

Now, let’s actually get onto the ideas!

1. A Walk Through The Park

Sometimes simplicity wins. A leisurely stroll through a park offers a relaxed, low-pressure setting to talk and get to know each other, plus it doesn’t cost any money either!

Stop by a cart for ice cream cones or bring along a couple of drinks to enjoy on a bench. It’s sweet, casual, and leaves room for plenty of conversation. It may also seem less confrontational than sitting across from each other, which you’d typically do during a traditional dinner date.

Personally, I recommend choosing a park with scenic trails, gardens, or landmarks to keep things interesting.

2. Visit a Farmer’s Market

Wandering through a farmer’s market is a low-pressure, charming way to spend a morning or afternoon. You can sample artisanal cheeses, buy quirky local crafts, and debate which stand has the best-looking strawberries. As a bonus, it’s a goldmine for impromptu conversation starters, making it a solid choice for those who don’t have much to talk about.

As a fun twist, you can challenge each other to pick out ingredients and later turn them into a meal (even if it’s just a fancy sandwich!)

3. Go To An Arcade

This is another great one if you aren’t the best at starting conversations. Arcades, by their very nature, have a TON of different things to do, and a ton of different things to talk about.

There are lots of fun games to play and challenge each other on – from direct competition in the form of air hockey or racing games, to the classics like skee-ball.

And although some may consider it a little cliche or cheesy, saving up your tickets to buy her a prize – or winning one from a claw machine can give her something memorable to take home with her.

4. Tour A Local Museum Or Gallery

For a more cultured vibe, hit up a museum or art gallery. Let’s face it, some people are more into this than arcades, so it’s helpful to know what type of person they are in advance.

Whether it’s ancient artifacts or modern art, exhibits provide endless fodder for conversation. (“What do you think this painting means?” “Honestly? It looks like spaghetti.”)

Many museums have free or discounted admission days, so you don’t have to break the bank to impress.

5. Take A Class Together

Whether it’s pottery, photography, or cooking a specific food, taking a class that caters to a mutual interest can be a fantastic way to connect. You’ll bond over the shared experience of learning something new and might even discover a hidden talent (or a hilarious lack thereof).

Look for beginner-friendly classes to keep things light and fun. You want an environment without a lot of pressure, where it’s okay to mess up and neither of you feel like you need to be experts.

6. Have A Board Game Night

For a fun and low-key option, set up a board game night. Choose games that are easy to learn and encourage interaction think Codenames, Ticket to Ride, or even a classic like Uno. A little friendly competition can break the ice and spark laughter.

This can be done either at one of your houses, or at a board game cafe.

Let the winner choose the next date activity or give the loser a silly “punishment” like singing a karaoke song.

7. Grab A Drink At A Bar

Grabbing a drink at a bar strikes the perfect balance between casual and lively. It’s a great option for evening dates and provides a relaxed atmosphere to talk and unwind. Pick a spot with a unique cocktail menu or fun theme to elevate the experience.

If you’re both feeling adventurous, try ordering a drink for each other to see who picks the better option. Maybe even have both of you try each other’s favorite drink!

The goal isn’t to get wasted, but to unwind and open the conversation up! Just remember, trying to get her drunk just so you can have sex with her can backfire and jeopardize the potential of the relationship.

8. Do A DIY Art Project

Unleash your inner Picasso with a creative DIY date. Pottery painting, candle making, or even a paint-and-sip night can spark your imagination (and some good laughs). And unlike a movie, you’ll have something tangible to remember the date by.

If your masterpiece looks like a five-year-old or my cat Muffin made it, call it “abstract.” Problem solved!

9. Attend a Food Festival or Street Fair

Food festivals or street fairs are a feast for all the senses – and a perfect opportunity to try something new together. You can wander through the stalls, sample exotic dishes, and bond over shared (or hilariously different) tastes.

Enjoy a food you’ve never tried before, go people watching, and gift her a souvenir to take home with her!

10. Go On A Scenic Drive

If you both enjoy the outdoors and have access to a car, a scenic drive can be a romantic and relaxing way to spend the afternoon. Choose a route that takes you through picturesque landscapes, historic sites, or charming small towns. Bring a picnic basket with some snacks and a blanket to enjoy a meal together at a scenic overlook or a cozy park.

The drive itself can be a great conversation starter. Talk about your favorite road trips, dream destinations, or even share some travel tips. The relaxed setting can help you both open up more naturally.

11. Go Bowling

Don’t pick this one if you’re already an expert at bowling, but this is a laid-back, casual and fun date for those that don’t bowl frequently!

The fact that you’ll have to constantly be taking turns prevents any awkward moments from lasting too long, and the friendly competition can spark some excitement.

Plus, if you want to extend the date, many bowling alleys serve food or have mini arcades in them as well, which can be a lot of fun!

12. Visit An Aquarium Or Zoo

Again, if you want something memorable, do something that you don’t do every week!

When’s the last time you’ve actually been to an aquarium or zoo? Chances are, it’s been a while!

This will give you plenty of time and topics to talk about, unlike a movie or a live show. You get to go at your own pace, spend time where you enjoy it most, and bond over the uniqueness and novelty of the experience!

Conclusion

First dates don’t have to be cookie-cutter or boring. By choosing something a little outside the box, you not only set yourself apart but also create a unique experience you’ll both remember.

Whether it’s laughing over a terrible art project or marveling at a sunset at a park, the key is to keep things fun, light, and open for connection.

So, what are you waiting for? Pick an idea, shoot your shot, and let the sparks fly!

Have fun!

~ Lexi

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Condoms are one of the most effective methods of contraception available, as well as the only form of contraception that offers protection against both pregnancy and sexually transmitted infections (STIs) at the same time. However, not all condoms are created equal.

There are many different types of condoms to choose from, and it can be overwhelming trying to pick the right one for you and your partner. This article will cover the differences between four different types of condoms, specifically latex, lambskin, polyurethane, and polyisoprene condoms. That way, you’ll be able to decide which is right for you!

Latex Condoms

First, let’s start with the most popular type of condom material on the market today.

Latex condoms are made from a thin layer of rubber called latex. Latex is a naturally-derived material that comes from the sap of rubber trees, though it can also be made in a lab. Latex condoms are the most widely available type of condom, and they have the added benefit of being very affordable compared to other condoms on the market.

Pros of Latex Condoms:

1. Latex condoms are one of the most effective forms of contraception available, with a typical failure rate of just 2% when used correctly.
2. They are effective at preventing the transmission of STIs due to their tight fit and impermeability.
3. They are often vegan-friendly, which may be important to some couples.  Some are processed with a milk protein called casein though, so be sure to check the box.
4. Latex condoms are available in a variety of textures and styles to enhance pleasure during sex. You can choose from smooth, ribbed, studded, flavored, and even glow in the dark condoms.

Cons of Latex Condoms:

Allergies

Latex condoms are not the best choice for those who are allergic or sensitive to latex. Some of the symptoms of a latex allergy include redness, itchiness, and swelling after use. If you experience any of these symptoms after using condoms, it is important that you switch to a latex-free condom alternative immediately and consult your doctor.

Less sensation

Latex condoms can reduce the sensation of skin-to-skin contact slightly, which may be a downside for some people. However, many modern condoms are now made to be extra thin and more sensitive to combat this issue.

Not great for oral sex

Latex condoms are not designed to be used for oral sex, as they can taste unpleasant. It is best to use a different type of condom specifically designed for oral sex if this is a concern. Flavored latex condoms are okay, but some people prefer polyisoprene over latex, which I’ll cover later.

Lubricant Use

Latex condoms can not be used with oil-based lubricant, as this can break the condom down and make it more prone to breakages.

Lambskin Condoms

Lambskin condoms are made from the intestinal membrane of lambs. They are the most natural condom option, as they are the only type of condom that comes from an organic source. In fact, these types of condoms have been used as early as the year 1642!

Pros of Lambskin Condoms:

1. The most obvious advantage of lambskin condoms over latex ones is the natural feeling they provide. Many couples prefer the sensation of lambskin condoms because it feels the most like having sex without condoms.
2. They are also a good choice for those who are allergic or sensitive to latex, as they are completely free from synthetic materials.

3. Like latex condoms, they are completely biodegradable.

Cons of Lambskin Condoms:

STI Protection

Unfortunately, lambskin condoms are not effective at preventing STI transmission. Although lambskin condoms are excellent at preventing pregnancy, they are not as effective as latex condoms at stopping the transmission of STI’s like HIV/AIDS, or HPV. This is because the pores in the membrane are large enough to allow the smaller STI-causing viruses and bacteria to pass through.

Not vegan-friendly

Lambskin condoms are not suitable for those who avoid products that come from animals, as they are derived from sheep tissue.

Higher Price

Lambskin condoms are often more expensive than latex condoms. This is because the process to make them is more complicated and labor-intensive than synthetic condoms.

Polyurethane Condoms

Polyurethane condoms are made of a thin, synthetic material that feels similar to latex, but is stronger and more stretchy. This material is great for those with latex sensitivities or allergies.

Pros of Polyurethane Condoms:

1. Better for sensitivity: Polyurethane condoms can be a good choice if you find that latex condoms dull sensation too much. They are often thinner than latex condoms, giving a more realistic feeling of skin-to-skin contact.
2. Safe for latex allergy sufferers: This material is great for those who can’t use latex condoms.
3. Can be used with oil-based lubricants: Unlike latex condoms, polyurethane condoms are compatible with oil-based lubricants without the risk of breakage. This is great news for couples who prefer this type of lubricant, which tends to last longer and can even feel more natural than water-based alternatives.

Cons of Polyurethane Condoms:

1. Heat conductivity: Polyurethane condoms don’t insulate heat as well as latex, which can make them feel slightly colder to the touch, which some people find less pleasurable.
2. Less pleasurable for oral sex: Some people also say that they can have an unpleasant taste, which may be a downside for couples who like to mix things up. This makes sense, as they are essentially synthetic chemicals.
3. Expensive: Unfortunately, the downside to their many benefits is that they tend to be more expensive than other condom materials.

Polyisoprene Condoms

Polyisoprene condoms are made from a synthetic, latex-free material that’s also used to make medical gloves. They feel more like latex than polyurethane condoms do, but still don’t have the same potential allergy issues.

Pros of Polyisoprene Condoms:

1. Latex-free and allergy-friendly: Polyisoprene condoms are another great option for those who are allergic or sensitive to latex.
2. Pleasurable feel: They have a similar feel to latex condoms but are stretchier and more comfortable for many people.
3. Pleasurable for oral sex: Polyisoprene condoms do not have the unpleasant taste that some people find with latex or polyurethane condoms, making them a great alternative for those who love to give and receive oral pleasure.

Cons of Polyisoprene Condoms:

1. Expensive: Similar to polyurethane condoms, the cost of polyisoprene condoms is generally higher than latex condoms due to the higher cost of the material used.
2. Not compatible with oil-based lubricants: The material is not as resistant to oil-based lubricants as condoms made of other materials, which can cause breakage if you use the wrong type of lube.
3. Not as widely available: Unfortunately, not all stores carry a large selection of polyisoprene condoms due to their higher cost. You may need to visit a specialty store or purchase them online.

How To Choose The Right Condom For You

Now that we’ve covered the pros and cons of each of these condom materials, let’s talk about how to choose which is right for you and your partner.

First off, safety should always be your top priority. If you are not sure whether or not you are allergic to latex, start off with a condom made from another material. You can always switch to latex condoms later if you and your partner don’t experience any issues.

If you do not have any concerns about STI transmission, then lambskin condoms could be an option for you if you prefer the feel of them over latex condoms.

However, if STI transmission is a concern (which should be for all sexually active couples, even in monogamous relationships), I recommend sticking with latex or a latex-free alternative like polyurethane or polyisoprene condoms.

Next, think about sensation. If you find that latex condoms make sex less pleasurable for you because of decreased sensation, consider trying out some polyurethane or polyisoprene condoms. Note of course that many major latex condom brands also have alternatives that are supposed to aid in sensation.

If you’re using condoms for anal sex, or if you require a thicker condom for any other reason, then polyurethane or lambskin condoms might not be right for you. Lambskin condoms are more prone to tears during anal sex due to their lack of stretchiness, and while polyurethane condoms are strong, they still are not as durable as latex ones.

Lastly, think about whether or not you plan on using a specific type of lubricant. Oil-based lubricants can break latex condoms down, so if that’s what you prefer, you’ll want to opt for a condom made of latex-free materials.

Conclusion

Condoms are an essential part of responsible sex and contraception. However, not all condoms are the same, and it’s important that you find the best condom for you and your partner’s needs.

If you’re allergic to latex, don’t enjoy the feeling of condoms, or simply want to try something new, you may want to consider a non-latex alternative. Lambskin, polyurethane, and polyisoprene condoms are all great options that have their pros and cons. Honestly, if you’re going to be having a lot of sex, it’s worth it to see which one feels the best to you.

But of course, as long as you don’t have a latex allergy, you generally can’t go wrong with them. They’re the most popular for a reason, after all!

I know this article was a bit technical, but I commend you for sticking through it. Hopefully, you now know a lot more about the different types of condoms available!

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Thanks for reading, and stay safe!

~ Lexi

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Lube is a critical tool in the sexual toolbox, but there are so many different types available that it can be hard to know which one you should choose. And by the way, needing lube is completely normal, and doesn’t mean she isn’t aroused. Regardless of the reasoning, it’s a good idea to know your way around sexual lubricant – starting with perhaps the most important difference – the different types!

The three most popular types of lubricant are water, silicone, and oil-based lubricants.

Each of these have their pros and cons, and in this article, I’ll break down everything you need to know about each, so you can make an informed decision next time you’re shopping for lube. I’ll also share some of my top recommended lube brands to consider trying out!

Let’s slide into it! Get it? Slide?

Ha. Ha…

Water-Based Lubricant

Water-based lubricants are the most commonly used lubricants, and for good reason. They’re safe to use with condoms and all types of sex toys, making them the most versatile option available. Honestly, whatever you’re planning on using it for, you usually can’t go wrong with water-based lube.

They’re also hypoallergenic, which means that they are unlikely to irritate your skin or sensitive parts. This makes them a great choice for those who haven’t tried many different lubricants before, or for couples who aren’t sure about what works best for them yet. So listen – if you’re with a new girl or you’ve never tried lube before and you want to play it safe, look no further. This is what you want.

Clean-up is also simple, and they are in fact the easiest to clean up after sex – just use water!

However, water-based lubes have a major downside – they tend to dry out faster than any other type. This means you may have to reapply often if you’re planning on having a marathon session. This can be a turn-off for some. It’s probably not that big of a deal since they can still last 30 minutes or more, but yeah.

If you rarely use lube, the water can also evaporate, which means the bottle will only last years instead of decades.

There are some water-based lubricants that are advertised as ‘long-lasting’ but they usually use glycerin, which can be irritating to sensitive parts, especially if used too often.

Pros

• Safe to use with condoms and toys
• Hypoallergenic – unlikely to irritate skin
• Easy to clean up
• Easy to find in stores, as it’s the most common

Cons

• Can dry out quickly
• Long-lasting versions may irritate sensitive areas
• It will wash away if you use it in conjunction with water, so it’s out of the question for pool or shower sex

Some of my favorite brands include one called ‘Slippery Stuff’, Sliqiud, and for usage with toys, one called ‘OnaEki’ that’s manufactured in Japan, but sold worldwide.

Silicone-Based Lubricant

If you’re looking for a lubricant that lasts for ages, silicone is your best choice. This stuff is like liquid silk. Once you get it on, it will keep your parts slippery and wet for a long time without needing to reapply.

Silicone lubricant is also waterproof, meaning you can use it in the bath, the shower, or even a hot tub without it washing off.

However, this is also the biggest downside to silicone lube – it’s also not water soluble. This means that getting it off your sheets can be a real pain. In fact, the phrase ‘how to get silicone lube out of sheets’ is searched for hundreds of times a month on Google, and there are probably a thousand different ways to ask that question. Let me just say, it takes a lot of dish soap and a lot of patience.

Silicone can also not be used with silicone or TPE sex toys. That means if you have a silicone dildo or an onahole that you love using, you’re going to want to stick to water-based lubes.

And if you don’t have an onahole, be sure to check out my Ultimate Guide To Onaholes, because you’re seriously missing out.

Pros

• Lasts for a long time
• Feels silky smooth
• Great for shower / water play

Cons

• Not easily washable
• Not compatible with silicone sex toys

My top brand recommendation for silicone based lube is Swiss Navy.

Oil-Based Lubricant

The final popular option is oil-based lubricant. This stuff is thick, long-lasting, and slippery as hell.

The biggest advantage of oil-based lubes over water-based lubes is that they can also be used in the shower or bath, and they’re unlikely to dry out quickly.

Like silicone, it lasts a long time without needing to be reapplied. This makes it a great choice for anal, where pulling out and reapplying the lube isn’t as easy, nor as hygienic.

Unfortunately, oil-based lubes have a few major drawbacks.

For one, they’re not compatible with latex condoms. In fact, using oil-based lube with latex condoms can actually make them more likely to break, which defeats the whole point of using a condom in the first place! If you must use oil-based lube, make sure the condom you’re using is polyurethane.

Additionally, they are harder to clean up than water-based lubricants, and can also be messier in general. Not as bad as silicone, but not great either.

Pros

• Lasts a long time
• Still suitable for most sex toys, including silicone
• Great for anal sex

Cons

• Incompatible with latex condoms
• Can be messier to clean up
• Harder to find in stores – but plenty of options online!

For brands, Gun Oil is a great one, or you can just use plain old coconut oil.

Conclusion

In my personal opinion, you really can’t go wrong with water-based lube, as long as you aren’t playing in or around water. That being said, silicone and oil-based lubes have their places as well.

It’s worth trying out each type at least once – assuming it’s safe to do so, and seeing what you like best. Different lubes – even of the same types can feel quite differently, so experiment and find which you like best!

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Thanks for reading, and have fun!

~ Lexi

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