First dates can be nerve-wracking. Do you dress fancy? Keep it casual? And most importantly, what do you do that’s not the same-old “dinner and a movie” routine? The goal of a first date is to create a memorable experience—something that sparks conversation and sets the stage for a connection.

When it comes to first dates, the default options of dinner and a movie have been so overused that they’ve become clichés. Don’t get me wrong, there’s nothing inherently wrong with these choices—they can be romantic and provide a comfortable setting to get to know someone. However, they can also feel a bit too predictable and might not always spark the kind of memorable, engaging experience you’re looking for.

If you want to stand out, show your creativity, and maybe even have a little fun, it’s time to shake things up. Here are 12 fantastic first date ideas that go beyond the usual dinner and movie routine. These activities are designed to help you and your date connect on a deeper level, share some laughs, and create lasting memories.

So First Of All, What Makes a Good First Date?

A great first date isn’t about flashy gestures or spending a fortune – it’s about creating a connection. Here are a few key elements that can turn a good date into a fantastic one:

• Opportunity To Talk: The best dates allow you to have meaningful (or at least fun!) conversations. Activities that are too loud, overly structured, or isolating can make it harder to connect.
• Unique And Memorable: Doing something out of the ordinary helps the date stand out. It doesn’t have to be extravagant – even small, creative touches can make the experience unforgettable.
• Low Pressure: First dates can be nerve-wracking, so choose activities that feel relaxed and casual. This helps both of you open up and enjoy the moment.
• Shared Experience: Whether you’re learning something new or laughing over a silly game, shared experiences build rapport and give you something to bond over.
• Shows Thoughtfulness: Picking an activity that aligns with your date’s interests (or something you’ve both expressed curiosity about) demonstrates that you’re paying attention and genuinely interested.

Keep these principles in mind as you plan your date, and you’ll set the stage for a great time – even if sparks don’t fly romantically at first.

12 First Date Ideas

Now, let’s actually get onto the ideas!

1. A Walk Through The Park

Sometimes simplicity wins. A leisurely stroll through a park offers a relaxed, low-pressure setting to talk and get to know each other, plus it doesn’t cost any money either!

Stop by a cart for ice cream cones or bring along a couple of drinks to enjoy on a bench. It’s sweet, casual, and leaves room for plenty of conversation. It may also seem less confrontational than sitting across from each other, which you’d typically do during a traditional dinner date.

Personally, I recommend choosing a park with scenic trails, gardens, or landmarks to keep things interesting.

2. Visit a Farmer’s Market

Wandering through a farmer’s market is a low-pressure, charming way to spend a morning or afternoon. You can sample artisanal cheeses, buy quirky local crafts, and debate which stand has the best-looking strawberries. As a bonus, it’s a goldmine for impromptu conversation starters, making it a solid choice for those who don’t have much to talk about.

As a fun twist, you can challenge each other to pick out ingredients and later turn them into a meal (even if it’s just a fancy sandwich!)

3. Go To An Arcade

This is another great one if you aren’t the best at starting conversations. Arcades, by their very nature, have a TON of different things to do, and a ton of different things to talk about.

There are lots of fun games to play and challenge each other on – from direct competition in the form of air hockey or racing games, to the classics like skee-ball.

And although some may consider it a little cliche or cheesy, saving up your tickets to buy her a prize – or winning one from a claw machine can give her something memorable to take home with her.

4. Tour A Local Museum Or Gallery

For a more cultured vibe, hit up a museum or art gallery. Let’s face it, some people are more into this than arcades, so it’s helpful to know what type of person they are in advance.

Whether it’s ancient artifacts or modern art, exhibits provide endless fodder for conversation. (“What do you think this painting means?” “Honestly? It looks like spaghetti.”)

Many museums have free or discounted admission days, so you don’t have to break the bank to impress.

5. Take A Class Together

Whether it’s pottery, photography, or cooking a specific food, taking a class that caters to a mutual interest can be a fantastic way to connect. You’ll bond over the shared experience of learning something new and might even discover a hidden talent (or a hilarious lack thereof).

Look for beginner-friendly classes to keep things light and fun. You want an environment without a lot of pressure, where it’s okay to mess up and neither of you feel like you need to be experts.

6. Have A Board Game Night

For a fun and low-key option, set up a board game night. Choose games that are easy to learn and encourage interaction think Codenames, Ticket to Ride, or even a classic like Uno. A little friendly competition can break the ice and spark laughter.

This can be done either at one of your houses, or at a board game cafe.

Let the winner choose the next date activity or give the loser a silly “punishment” like singing a karaoke song.

7. Grab A Drink At A Bar

Grabbing a drink at a bar strikes the perfect balance between casual and lively. It’s a great option for evening dates and provides a relaxed atmosphere to talk and unwind. Pick a spot with a unique cocktail menu or fun theme to elevate the experience.

If you’re both feeling adventurous, try ordering a drink for each other to see who picks the better option. Maybe even have both of you try each other’s favorite drink!

The goal isn’t to get wasted, but to unwind and open the conversation up! Just remember, trying to get her drunk just so you can have sex with her can backfire and jeopardize the potential of the relationship.

8. Do A DIY Art Project

Unleash your inner Picasso with a creative DIY date. Pottery painting, candle making, or even a paint-and-sip night can spark your imagination (and some good laughs). And unlike a movie, you’ll have something tangible to remember the date by.

If your masterpiece looks like a five-year-old or my cat Muffin made it, call it “abstract.” Problem solved!

9. Attend a Food Festival or Street Fair

Food festivals or street fairs are a feast for all the senses – and a perfect opportunity to try something new together. You can wander through the stalls, sample exotic dishes, and bond over shared (or hilariously different) tastes.

Enjoy a food you’ve never tried before, go people watching, and gift her a souvenir to take home with her!

10. Go On A Scenic Drive

If you both enjoy the outdoors and have access to a car, a scenic drive can be a romantic and relaxing way to spend the afternoon. Choose a route that takes you through picturesque landscapes, historic sites, or charming small towns. Bring a picnic basket with some snacks and a blanket to enjoy a meal together at a scenic overlook or a cozy park.

The drive itself can be a great conversation starter. Talk about your favorite road trips, dream destinations, or even share some travel tips. The relaxed setting can help you both open up more naturally.

11. Go Bowling

Don’t pick this one if you’re already an expert at bowling, but this is a laid-back, casual and fun date for those that don’t bowl frequently!

The fact that you’ll have to constantly be taking turns prevents any awkward moments from lasting too long, and the friendly competition can spark some excitement.

Plus, if you want to extend the date, many bowling alleys serve food or have mini arcades in them as well, which can be a lot of fun!

12. Visit An Aquarium Or Zoo

Again, if you want something memorable, do something that you don’t do every week!

When’s the last time you’ve actually been to an aquarium or zoo? Chances are, it’s been a while!

This will give you plenty of time and topics to talk about, unlike a movie or a live show. You get to go at your own pace, spend time where you enjoy it most, and bond over the uniqueness and novelty of the experience!

Conclusion

First dates don’t have to be cookie-cutter or boring. By choosing something a little outside the box, you not only set yourself apart but also create a unique experience you’ll both remember.

Whether it’s laughing over a terrible art project or marveling at a sunset at a park, the key is to keep things fun, light, and open for connection.

So, what are you waiting for? Pick an idea, shoot your shot, and let the sparks fly!

Have fun!

~ Lexi

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You’re texting someone you’re excited about. Maybe you’ve had a few dates, or maybe it’s just been late-night chats that felt like sparks flying. Then, without warning, silence. No replies. No excuses. Just… nothing. Welcome to the infuriating world of ghosting.

Ghosting – when someone abruptly cuts off communication without explanation – has become a hallmark of modern dating (and friendships, let’s be honest). But why do people ghost, and how do you handle it without feeling like you’re starring in a tragic rom-com? In this article, let’s unpack this experience, to understand why it occurs and what you should do about it.

Why Do People Ghost?

The Path of Least Resistance

One major reason people ghost is that it’s easy. Ending a connection – even a fleeting one – requires a level of emotional maturity and confrontation that not everyone is comfortable with. For many, it feels simpler to fade into the ether than to say, “I’m not feeling this.” In their minds, ghosting spares them an awkward conversation, even though it leaves you with the emotional equivalent of a cliffhanger.

Yes, it’s incredibly rude, and incredibly selfish. But ghosters don’t care. In their minds, they never have to think about you again, so they throw all of the burden on you and take none of it for themselves.

Fear of Conflict

Closely tied to avoidance, fear of conflict is another big driver of ghosting. Maybe they think you’ll be hurt or angry, and they’d rather not deal with your potential reaction. Ironically, ghosting often creates the very feelings they’re trying to dodge. A simple, “Hey, I don’t see this going anywhere” might sting, but it’s far kinder than leaving someone to stew in uncertainty.

People with an ‘avoidant’ attachment style may be more prone to ghosting, as they were never taught how to handle conflicts or resolve them gracefully while growing up. While this is no excuse, it can explain why some people are more prone to ghosting than others.

They’re Overwhelmed

Sometimes ghosting has less to do with you and more to do with their personal circumstances. Maybe they’re juggling work stress, family drama, or mental health struggles. Communication falls by the wayside, and instead of explaining, they vanish. If they’re juggling dozens of other things at the moment, getting back to a relationship that in their mind, has already ended, is not a priority.

It’s not an excuse, but it’s a reminder that ghosting isn’t always about you.

They Weren’t That Invested

This one’s a bitter pill: sometimes people ghost because the connection wasn’t as meaningful to them as it was to you. It’s not fair or kind, but in their eyes, disappearing feels proportionate to the level of attachment they had. They may think you’ll barely notice their absence, even though you’re left analyzing every message for clues.

Digital Detachment

Let’s face it: technology makes ghosting almost effortless. Back in the day, you’d at least have to dodge someone in person or hang up a rotary phone. Now, all it takes is not responding to a text or unmatching on Tinder.

The digital world can make people feel less accountable for their actions, as if the virtual nature of your connection makes it less real.

How to Handle Being Ghosted

Step 1: Resist the Urge to Spiral

The first thing you’ll WANT to do is figure out what went wrong. Did you say something weird? Were you too eager? Did they suddenly remember an ex they weren’t over?

The truth is, you’ll likely never know, and you need to be able to accept that.

Ghosting thrives on ambiguity, and chasing answers is a one-way ticket to frustration. Instead of dissecting every interaction, remind yourself that their actions are about them, not you.

Step 2: Allow Yourself to Feel

Being ghosted hurts. It’s rejection wrapped in confusion, and it can sting even if the relationship was brief.

Give yourself permission to feel annoyed, sad, or even angry. Bottling it up won’t help, and acknowledging your feelings is the first step toward moving on.

Put on your favorite playlist (bonus points if it’s an epic breakup anthem) and let yourself process.

Step 3: Don’t Chase the Ghost

When someone ghosts, the instinct to send one last message can be overwhelming.

You might want to call them out or ask for closure. But more often than not, this leads to further frustration.

If they wanted to explain, they would have. Sending a “Why did you ghost me?” text isn’t likely to bring them back, makes you look desperate, and puts the power in their hands.

Take the high road, even if it feels like an uphill climb.

Step 4: Reframe the Narrative

It’s easy to take ghosting personally, but try to reframe it as a blessing in disguise.

Someone who ghosts is showing you that they lack the communication skills or emotional maturity you deserve in a partner or friend. If they can’t even handle saying goodbye, they’re not the right person to build something meaningful with.

In their vanishing act, they’ve cleared the stage for someone better. Besides, it’s better that you don’t waste time on someone that’s not interested in you, when your future spouse is out there waiting for you to find them!

Step 5: Focus on Yourself

The best revenge isn’t a snarky text or a passive-aggressive Instagram story. It’s moving on and thriving.

Use the time and energy you would’ve spent on them to invest in yourself. Pursue hobbies, spend time with people who value you, and remind yourself of your worth.

Building your life up – for your OWN sake makes you more attractive, and that’s on top of the happiness and relief it can bring.

Final Thoughts

Ghosting isn’t just a personal slight; it’s part of a larger issue in modern relationships. It reflects a culture where people avoid difficult conversations and prioritize their own comfort over someone else’s feelings. While it’s easy to point fingers at dating apps and social media, the problem runs deeper. Ghosting thrives in a world where emotional labor – like having honest, uncomfortable conversations – is undervalued.

That said, it’s worth noting that not all ghosting is malicious. Sometimes people genuinely don’t know how to handle the situation, or they’re dealing with challenges that make communication hard. While it doesn’t excuse the behavior, understanding it can make it easier to let go of the resentment.

Remember, being ghosted says more about them than it does about you. And who knows? The next time your phone buzzes, it might be a message from someone who actually deserves your time.

~ Lexi

Lewd Lexi

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He’s rude. Disrespectful. Doesn’t care about her. Constantly does stupid things that aren’t right for him, let alone for their relationship.

So when you step back and think about it logically, it makes no sense why these sorts of guys are able to attract so many girls. But what is it about them that makes them so appealing? Why do girls chase after bad boys, and what do they actually see in these men anyway?

It turns out, there are some pretty logical reasons – or at least, they make sense when you recognize them. So, in this article, I’ll be breaking these down, and how you can take on some of these same attractive qualities without making a jerk out of yourself!

1. They Crave Excitement And Dopamine

Perhaps the biggest reason that bad boys are attractive as a whole, is because they tend to live more unpredictable, more exciting lives.

Or, at least it appears that way.

It’s no secret that bad boys tend to ‘use’ women, and only spend time with them when they want something out of them. They are emotionally unavailable otherwise, and aren’t there for women unless it’s for selfish purposes.

This leads to two things.

First of all, when a bad boy does contact a woman, it’s usually to do something fun, exciting, or new. Now, I’m not saying this behavior is right, or will lead to the highest quality relationship in the long-term. But it does train her brain to associate this man with fun and excitement, which, especially with someone new, is more appealing than stability and comfort.

Remember that we are just impulsive animals, and don’t always prioritize our best long-term interests over short-term gains.

Anyhow, this rush of excitement also initiates ‘the chase.’ We obsess over the things we want but can’t have, especially if we believe that we can attain them at some point.

Attention from bad boys releases a hint of dopamine. Dopamine is released when we attain a reward, but also when we anticipate attaining a reward. And since bad boys are selfish, girls don’t get that reward often enough for it to become boring or unexciting.

In fact, dopamine is released in higher quantities when you try something, but don’t get the reward each time.

Anyhow, dopamine rushes are the core of what makes bad boys appealing to many women. Dopamine is the same hormone that lies at the root of all addictions – to porn, to MMOs, to hard drugs.

And unfortunately, to the attention from bad boys too.

If you want to learn more about how dopamine controls our lives, I highly recommend the book ‘The Molecule Of More’ by Daniel Lieberman and Michael Long.

2. They Are Living Out Their Inner Rebel

Interestingly enough, one study showed that girls that were never allowed to express their emotions when they were growing up, were more likely to be attracted to bad boys later on in life.

It’s natural for teenagers to go through rebellious stages, where we lash out against authority, do things we’re not supposed to, and live life on the wild side a little bit. But due to harsh parenting, not everybody got to do this.

We are often attracted to qualities in people that we wish we had. If we wish we were a little more daring, a little more outspoken and so on, we’re more likely to be attracted to potential partners that share those same qualities.

Picture a young girl with harsh parents, that always expected her to be on her best behavior. She wasn’t allowed to lash out. She wasn’t allowed to express her emotions.

Being with a ‘bad boy’ frees her from the pressure of having to be a ‘good girl’, something she was forced into all of her life.

Thankfully, just like teenagers’ rebellious phases naturally fizzle out, so does seeking out bad boys. As women age and become more mature, they are less likely to seek out bad boys in general.

3. Their Past Relationships Bored Them

All of us crave some sort of fun and excitement in our lives. Especially in the modern world, where we go out less than ever, we’re stuck working mind-numbing jobs we don’t care about, and social media has made us more connected – but also more distant than ever before.

It can actually be beneficial for both men and women to date many different types of partners, to figure out what they actually want and need out of a relationship.

If a woman dated many ‘nice guys’ in the past with stable but boring routines and lifestyles, they may seek out a bad boy for the sole purpose of shaking things up, and trying something new.

Remember, it may look like bad boys get a lot of women, but there aren’t a whole lot of bad boys compared to good men, and the relationships they have don’t really tend to last.

Anyhow, the point of this article is not to make you feel like you need to change who you are. If a woman doesn’t appreciate your true personality, then she doesn’t deserve you anyway. And ‘faking it’ can be detected by a woman a mile away – it actually makes you appear even more insecure.

But what can you do to make your life more exciting? Do you have an active social life and things you’ve got going on already? Or, are you expecting her to be your entire social life herself?

This isn’t appealing, or attractive. Bad boys tend to have bigger social lives due to their extroverted and confident nature. But this has nothing to do with being bad.

You can live a more exciting life without changing your personality. And you can be sure that if you do, more women will want to come along for the ride.

4. They Like Dominant, Assertive Men

This is not true for all women, but generally speaking, women find dominance and assertiveness as attractive personality traits.

This goes back to our caveman – or should I say cavewoman days. We needed to find mates that could help ensure our survival, and keep us protected.

Leaders. People who are willing to speak out and stand up for what needs to be done. People who command control and won’t let people walk over or take advantage of them.

Confrontation is uncomfortable. But bad boys are so used to it, that it doesn’t bother them anymore. They may appear like loud-mouthed aggressive jerks, but if that person is on your side – well, it is valuable when it comes to surviving.

5. They Believe They Can ‘Fix’ Them

This one again, comes down to dopamine.

Even if someone has a bad reputation of being a womanizer or even downright abusive, certain women are drawn to ‘fixer uppers.’ They want the pride of being the one that finally gets them to change their ways, to get them to settle down and become a good man, to ‘tame’ them.

Of course, this never works out. You can’t force someone to change – people only change if they want to.

Winning more of a bad boy’s attention, or getting him to change his behavior gives you the excitement of winning a reward, or the satisfaction from finishing a project. And since it never happens, this keeps women in ‘the chase’ we talked about earlier.

Actually, some people are addicted to the ‘chase’ period itself, and the romantic roller coaster it provides. With nice guys who are chasing after a woman, this ‘chase’ period is nonexistent. They get together, and he immediately is ready to do whatever she wants, however often she wants. This feels good, but can quickly become boring for people addicted to the chase. And after the ‘honeymoon’ period of the relationship is over, people get bored, and they break up. This is true on both sides.

Bad boys are the polar opposite. The ‘chase’ period is longer, and may only end when the woman finally gives up – or jumps to someone else they believe has more potential to fill whatever need she has.

6. Their Parents Were Narcissists

Finally, girls who were raised by narcissistic parents tend to chase after bad boys more than those who grew up in a stable, loving family.

We often look for partners who are similar to our parents. This feels safe, secure, and we understand them. We know what we need to do in order to be rewarded with the love that we need.

Many girls that were raised by narcissists had to behave a certain way, or do certain things to ‘win’ a parent’s love, even if only for a moment. Oftentimes these households have lots of emotional highs and lows. For example, perhaps parents got into fights or arguments, but then were forgiving and loving afterward.

If you only ever got a hug after you were yelled at – or the love was conditional on you behaving a certain way, that can really mess with someone.

These types of girls are often quick to start arguments or drama over absolutely anything, just for the sake of doing so. Hence, seeking out bad boys, who naturally act this way on their own.

It’s sad, but it has nothing to do with you, and everything to do with the way they were raised.

Closing Thoughts

You don’t need to become a bad boy to attract women – nor should you.

However, I think there is a lot to learn from the things they have in common. Bad boys are confident, they live exciting lives (or, at least it appears that way), and they aren’t reliant on their partners to fulfill every emotional need that they have. These are all traits you can work on yourself, without needing to change or fake who you are as a person.

Remember that bad boys may appear to be pulling in women now, but these relationships don’t last, nor do they lead to long-term satisfaction. As women naturally mature and realize that nothing good comes from dating a bad boy, they tend to seek out better men as time goes on. So if you’re still young, hang in there.

Want to learn more about positive traits that can help make you more attractive? Check out my article on what attracts women to older men as well – it makes great supplemental reading after this article.

Good luck out there, and be patient! The right one will come.

~ Lexi

Lewd Lexi

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Are you constantly looking around and seeing hot young girls with older men, and wonder what they’re doing differently? It’s not just looks, so what do they have you don’t?

The answer is a lot more complicated than you might expect – and often comes down to their natural personality traits and the way they approach life, more than their looks or their money. Thankfully, this means that even if you’re younger right now, you can use these same tactics to make yourself more attractive to women of all ages.

So, in this article, I’ll be breaking them down into separate categories – explaining what draws women to older men, and how you can use this information to make changes in your own life right now.

1. Older Men Have A Clear Direction In Life

This shouldn’t come as a surprise, but most women are attracted to people that got their life together, so to speak.

This doesn’t mean that they need to have everything already taken care of – we all know that nobody is perfect, and good things come with time.

As someone ages into their 30’s, 40’s and beyond however, they’ve probably gotten a good grasp on their identity, and what they want out of life. They know the career path they want to go down. They know whether or not they want to have kids. They know what their values are, they have deep rooted hobbies, they aren’t still experimenting or trying to figure things out.

To be fair, when you’re young, this is the time to experiment and try new things. This is natural, and beneficial. It’s important to figure out who you are. But that takes time.

2. They Provide Stability

This leads me into my second point, which is that older men provide stability and security that younger men don’t often have – again, because they still have a lot of changes going on in their lives.

Older men have already finished schooling, they’ve chosen a career path that they’re going to stick with, and they’re probably not going to be relocating anytime soon. They’ve gotten their youthful party phase out of the way, and while they certainly still like to have fun, they aren’t as sporadic or crazy about it.

They aren’t worried about making rent or where they’re going to live. Most of them have a place of their own and dating them feels ‘safe’ – it’s not as big of a risk as say, someone bouncing between jobs that can barely make rent.

Really, stability lowers the perceived risk of being with you. It helps her feel comfortable, safe and secure, especially when it comes to making a commitment.

3. They Make More Mature Decisions

Sticking with the ‘risk’ category for just a minute, older men take to make wiser, and more mature decisions.

They aren’t going to suddenly change the direction of their life, spend a ton of money, or do something with heavy consequences on a whim. They likely already have the wisdom and experience that living life provides, and think things out more carefully before making any changes.

But this also comes down to normal, day-to-day activities too. Instead of spending all their time playing video games, they make sure that household chores are taken care of. They buy insurance. They drive reasonable speeds when out on the road. They don’t put themselves or others in harm’s way by trying to “show off.”

According to a study done by Nikelodeon UK, men reach full emotional maturity only at age 43 on average, which is 11 years later than women.

So, if you think you’re done maturing by 25, think again!

4. They’re Typically Better At Sex

This one comes down to experience.

Sex is a skill, and it’s one that you get better at with practice. That’s not to say you need to take a ton of different women to bed, but like any skill, the more you do it – and in a larger number of different situations, the better you get at it.

This is completely anecdotal, but I’ve found from talking to different women that older men are also typically less selfish in bed – they go to greater lengths to ensure that the woman is having a good time, too. Sorry younger guys, but a lot of you all are selfish when it comes to sex – you get things going way too quick, and as soon as you cum, you’re done.

Sex of course, is only one part of a relationship. But of course, the better you are at it, the more she’s going to want to do it, and the more she’s going to want to stay with you.

A lot of older men actually do better when it comes to ‘hookup culture’ than younger guys do, because even if the girls are dating someone else, they’ll keep older guys on the side for booty calls.

Also just a quick note – good sex doesn’t mean ramming her like some kind of crazy pornstar. It comes down to communication, being in tune with each other, and genuinely caring about the other person’s experience.

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5. They’re Different From Past Partners

It takes time to find the love of your life. And unfortunately, that means that most people go through quite a few hard breakups before they find ‘the one.’

Younger guys are more impulsive, and are more prone to switching up relationships – even ending good relationships, in pursuit of novelty and excitement. Unfortunately, even if you are with your soulmate, that ‘honeymoon period’ at the beginning of all relationships always ends.

Thankfully, it’s replaced with a bond that is even better – but it’s not the same, dopamine-rush, over the moon feeling you get in the beginning.

Some women try dating older men because they believe it will prevent the pain they felt from past relationships ending – or solve problems those relationships had. Again, this comes down to some of the things mentioned already – if someone got dumped because their boyfriend changed careers and got too busy for her, they’re going to be drawn to someone that’s settled in their career, and isn’t overwhelmed with other responsibilities.

This is highly individualistic. But humans are twice as likely to make decisions to avoid pain than to gain pleasure, so if they’ve been hurt in the past by younger guys, they may think an older man is the answer.

6. Older Men Typically Have A Financial Edge

We can pretend all we want, but let’s be real here – most women are more drawn to people with money, whether they like to admit it or not.

This doesn’t mean they can’t love someone who has nothing, obviously. But if two people were exactly the same, and one had money and one didn’t, most women would choose the guy with the money.

People tend to get wealthier as they get older. They move up in their careers, they own their own stuff, and if they were financially responsible, they have savings to fall back on.

Money is security, sure. But it’s also comfort, it’s less stress, it’s excitement and opportunity, it’s freedom. And who doesn’t want that?

Interestingly enough, women aren’t as attracted to younger men that appear to have money. If an older man drives a nice car, we assume that he’s made good choices that have led him to a lavish lifestyle. If a younger man is driving a sports car, women assume that he’s being fiscally irresponsible, and that the money won’t last.

So, don’t think that flaunting the money you have is a good idea. Show that you have promise for a financially secure future – have a good career lined up, start a business, show promise that you won’t be broke.

That’s far more important than designer clothes, or god forbid, a massive car loan.

7. Some Women Find Them More Attractive

This is the other one that you can’t really do anything about.

They say that women get less attractive as they age, but men get more attractive as they age – up until around age 50, according to one study.

Biologically speaking, this may be because women’s fertility continues declining as she ages. And since a big part of why we seek out mates is so we can reproduce, fertility is pretty important.

Men on the other hand don’t experience the same fertility drop-off that women do – once they start producing sperm, they can have babies their entire life.

Just like you might prefer blondes or brunettes, some women prefer the look of older, more mature men. But of course, this doesn’t mean that they’ll exclusively date older men.

There is a lot one can do to improve their attractiveness to women, even if you haven’t been blessed with a beautiful smile, you’re not tall, and all these other factors that people use as excuses – but don’t make as big of a difference as they seem. Yes, there are things you can’t control, but there is also a lot you can control.

8. They Exhibit More Attractive Personality Traits

Some of those controllable factors are your personality traits. And this often has a lot more to do with making someone attracted to you than looks alone do.

Older men have more confidence. They don’t fear rejection as much – probably because they’ve lived through it a lot more, and they’re a lot more sure of themselves.

When you are desperate for someone’s affection, it shows. And unfortunately, in any relationship – be it sexual, romantic or even in business, the person that is willing to walk away is the one with all the power.

Speaking of power, older men also have more influence – perhaps due to their career, and assertiveness. They don’t let people take advantage or wrong them – or the woman as much. They’re not afraid to speak up about it. They’ve gone through enough shit in their life that they aren’t going to tolerate injustice, just to avoid confrontation.

Now again, these are all generalizations, but it’s true.

Thankfully, confidence, charisma, assertiveness, humor – these are all traits you can actually work on and improve at any age.

Closing Thoughts

As you can see, there’s not really anything special about being older in particular. While it’s true that many men become more attractive as they age, the majority of what draws women to older men has nothing to do with looks.

If you’re willing to work hard to make these changes in your life, and become a man with great potential, then women will start to take notice. In fact, improving yourself for your own sake, rather than just to get laid, counterintuitively tends to result in much more attention from women than fancy clothes, memorizing pickup lines, or even being super attractive.

If you want more tips on actually getting a quality girlfriend, let me know! This is the first time I’ve done an article like this, so I’m curious if it’s something you found interesting or helpful.

See you again soon,

~ Lexi

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